Posted on 09/11/2006 10:39:33 AM PDT by FreeManDC
She's a successful chick with young child[ren]. Do we know how she treats her husband? She is smart enough to do it all and do it right IMHO!
Awwwwwwwwww. How sweet! [I'm serious!] Lucky you!
Somehow, Mike, I don't have you pegged as a potential lapdog or gigolo ... L O L
I know, me either. But that doesn't stop fortysomethings from pinching me at bars.
My experience was the exact opposite. I stayed at home with our children for 13 1/2 years or so before going back to work, and I don't think I ever once heard a negative word from my wife about not making any money.
As it stands, she still earns roughly 11 times what I make and as we approach our 16th annversery, it's still not a problem.
You have to be very young. Any man past the age of 30 is beyond is going to instantly see through the maneuver and be offended that some chica really thought an ego stroke was going to work.
I think mine has problems with her sperm donor/daddy, and has transferred many of them to me.
Have you tried working with a Behavior Analyst (one who can show you his or her Board Certified credentials, not someone who simply states he or she is a behavior analyst)?
Better advice: Don't get involved with a woman whose daughter is a rude, dishonest trust fund baby.
Your observation is supported by empirical research.
There are many women for whom that is not true. Don't be hanging the failure for that particular strategy on men, thankyouverymuch!
Waste not your time trying to explain the color red to a blind man.
As you stated, her lack of humility and acting more like a "dog in heat" convinced me she was still the same tramp as before. I thank God He showed me this before I made a terrible mistake.
So just a short "Thank You" for your post that confirmed my own inner convictions - character eventually shines through and is easily transparent.
We haven't worked with a behavior analyst.
However, she is doing great in the private school. She is happy, and is learning a lot.
Her twin sister is also doing great in private school.
Everyone is a lot less stressed than we have been.
I think we are in a great private school, and I'm glad I'm not homeschooling my kids.
I am very happy to hear she (and her sister) are doing so well.
Of course there are exceptions to the rule. Just like there might be some exceptions to every male needing tons of respect and admiration.
Don't be hanging the failure for that particular strategy on men
Affection is for the most part a very basic need for women and if a man is not providing his woman's need then that is a failure. And I'm not talking about the self-conscious kind of affection that is only doing it to "do what's right" but a confident, unself-centered consistent and sincere affection (a woman can easily spot the fake kind.) This will work wonders on many a hard-nosed woman.
So sorry, but no. You are chasing your tail. If people are not ultimately responsible for their own actions and decisions, then no one is responsible for anything.
In your example...could not the man just say that he would be more loving, if she was?
There's the attitude...pride.
Drop the pride. Give a woman what she needs. That's a real man. One without a chip on his shoulder.
Your forgot: "and shut up! I'm watching the game!"
Amen. I say that by faith, not sight (still looking for her!)
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