[IslandJeff]

I don't buy into the nice guy/jerk paradigm. Women tend to want a good, masculine man. An excessively nice, too accommodating male comes across as less than masculine and is rejected by women, regardless of how stable he is.

So, how does a man stay masculine enough within a marriage to sustain a wife's interest when it comes time to do the dishes, clean the cat-box, etc?

[Nice Guy Dud here]

[HitmanLV]

All that stuff is fine. Bering masculine isn't a series of tricks you do or don't do. It's the way you carry yourself, confidence, dominance, making her feel safe, making her feel pretty and sexy, and other stuff.

[Jeff Chandler]

how does a man stay masculine enough within a marriage to sustain a wife's interest when it comes time to do the dishes

What difference does it make when it's time for the woman to do the dishes?

clean the cat-box

If your dog chases the cats away, there' no need for a cat box.

[Centurion2000]

So, how does a man stay masculine enough within a marriage to sustain a wife's interest when it comes time to do the dishes, clean the cat-box, etc?

Do the dishes and break a few, evnetually she will want to do the dishes to save them.

Then do the yard, fix stuff around the house and kill bugs. Shoot a coyote once in a while.

[Hildy]

Jeff...My husband cooks, cleans, cleans the kitty litter, AND does all the ironing. He also fishes, hunts, builds things and looks sexy doing it all...It has nothing to do with what a man does that is a measure of his sexiness, my dear. You can take that to the bank.

[the OlLine Rebel]

"Nice Guy DUD?"


LOL, beautiful mistake! Don't be surprised at a witty come-back to your whole post!

[listenhillary]

Easy - Don't wear pants

[Titan Magroyne]

So, how does a man stay masculine enough within a marriage to sustain a wife's interest when it comes time to do the dishes, clean the cat-box, etc? [Nice Guy Dud here] I read up to the current posts and returned to yours because no-one else quite hit on my first impulse, though the advice to show confidence is a part of it. Decisiveness.

"Whatever you want to do, dear," is not the way to begin a discussion. You can settle on a solution once both of you have expressed a preference. And if you concede to her will thinking it's the gentlemanly way to go, next time it's your pick. Just my opinion, but not even nice girls can respect a pushover for very long.

As for housework? If you think it unmasculine to contribute to upkeep of a home, you may find her too busy to keep YOU up, if'n you know what I mean. :o)