[decimon]

Perhaps some will recognize this phenomenon.

[johnny7]

They should ask Elizabeth Edwards... I believe it has something to do with 'snaking'.

[Caramelgal]

Unfortunately I do recognize this phenomenon.

Are you having concerns in this regard?

I believe that men and women can be friends but if they are married (to other people) it can be a slippery slope.

An affair does not need to be sexual in nature. There is such a thing as the “emotional affair” – this is where one partner develops a close emotional relationship with someone not his or her spouse and can be very damaging to the marriage even if it doesn’t develop into a physical relationship. I know because this is why my marriage ended.

[Lonesome in Massachussets]

Duh.

[knarf]

Marriage unites two as one, and as one, the wife's desire is towards her husband only ... and then when children come along, she starts the frantic pull between them and her husband.

She grows strong and is a true helper, fit for the task of guiding her family to the future.

Where can a male friend come into this equation?

Answer;

Way back there when the two were to become one ... she didn't.

[rusureitflies?]

There are a “professional” and “friendly” relationships that strengthen a married couple’s relationship. Our Sick Society is always looking for a way demean marriage.
All this sex talk is like a bad smell coming from those who don’t want to be rightous and are looking for other sick folks to agree with them. What did Huxley say about teaching evolution...? a way to get away from a Judgemental God.
Get real, for God’s sake.

[the invisib1e hand]

question: why am I so stupid that I have to ask this question?

[robertpaulsen]

Harry: You realise of course that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is... and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form, is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That's not true, I have a number of men friends and there's is no sex involved.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You're saying I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman he finds attractive, he always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive.
Harry: Nuh, you pretty much wanna nail'em too.
Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn't matter, because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally: Well I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry: Guess not.
Sally: That's too bad. You are the only person I knew in New York.

[Churchillspirit]

Perhaps it's the partner relationship that causes the insecurity.

There may be a reason why one of this couple does not want to commit.

[Physicist]

The advice in that article does more harm than good.

You can't control what your partner does. You can control what you do. If your partner has friends of the opposite sex, and you don't like it, you can either demand that your partner put a stop to it, or learn to trust your partner as you should.

If your partner has a Platonic friend, and you draw first blood in the relationship by refusing to trust your partner, then you have nobody to blame but yourself when you eventually do become a cuckold. You drove the wedge.

And if your fears were well-founded, picking a pre-emptive fight probably wouldn't have saved the marriage anyway.