Posted on 11/30/2007 8:18:46 AM PST by qam1
Producing? It’s already produced them.
This “child-centered” (so-called) parenting seems to be the norm. I cannot stand to be near most people’s brats on airlines, in restaurants, or at malls. They seem oblivious to well-managed stares and ‘the hairy eyeball’.
Bottom line—we treat our kids as equals, not as parent-child, and wonder why they get upset when some put their foot down eventually...
...interestingly, while we (the Grown-Ups) maintain the attitude that WE are the adults around here, YOU are the KIDS and it’s the ADULTS who make the decisions, we are accused of ‘violating’ their ‘rights’ as humans by not recognizing them as ‘equals.’
They get this from school.
We laugh it off and get the final word, (usually ;) but these kids are actually being engineered into thinking they should have as much authority and say-so as adults.
Not only that, but from *very* young ages, they are told they can call Children-Youth Services if they feel they are being ‘abused.’ (which can be anything from a severe beating to being made to sit in a corner or made to eat their brocolli.)
I’ve read/heard enough horror stories that once a call is placed, you can be embroiled in a battle with these dimwits simply for giving the kid Cheerios over Captain Crunch if the kid calls and cries ‘abuse!’
When mine were younger, I cringed at the idea when they’d make the threat....now that they are older, I tell them, ‘Here, would you like me to make the call FOR you? YOU will be the one put into foster care in the ghetto with 9 other kids and at least I won’t have to listen to your mouth for a few days.’
“No” was the second word my little son learned this year. The first word being the cat’s name of course, who helped him learn to walk.
Beat their arse and send them to their room to think about it. Rinse. Repeat until you get the desired behavior. It worked in my family.
We are trying to parent with the goal of teaching our son to be independent AND civilized. This is much harder than I anticipated. At fifteen months, it seems like we are experiencing the “terrible two’s”. He will frequently say “no, no, no, ...” as he is doing what we have previously told him not to do.
I may now be paying the price for all the complaining I used to do about other peoples’ children.
I find this to be great news.
Generations of muppets can’t compete with those I’m related to that were brought up properly. It bodes well for their success.
That is the quote of the day, I think!
When my daughters tell me she wants something, I always reply that I want a daughter who eats her vegetables. I then ask her If I am going to get what I want. She says, “No.” I then respond, “We don’t always get what we want, do we?”
Children are not mature enough to be “independent”.
Seriously, see my link above, read the book from your library. It makes a lot of sense. If he’s old enough to understand a command, he’s old enough to obey you, willingly and cheerfully.
When the child has enough parental guidance under his belt, THEN he can be independent, and more confidently so.
Incidentally, I talked to a Vietnamese family a while back, and out of curiosity asked about the “terrible two’s” - they hadn’t heard of it. Described it to the mother and she said “oh, that’s just misbehavior - spanking consistently cures that”.
My wife works childcare at our church preschool. She’s got 2 of these little hellions, both supposedly being raised in Christian homes. I happened to be there one day when one boy told my wife “no” when asked to pick up the mess he had made - I asked him if he tells his parents “no” - he nodded his head yes.
This next generation as “adults” is going to be something else! Road rage will be nothing compared to what their behavior will be like.
LOL!
Undisciplined Children = Spoiled Brats = Liberal Peter Pans
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