My MIL buys crap all year long from the deep discount tables then puts it all on her bed just before Christmas and picks stuff for each of us, without actual regard to wants or taste.
She gave my two year old a Kaboodle with a mirror and that same year, forgot my four year old totally.
When the next year, we tried to send her a list for the kids, she sent a poison pen letter stating, “I’m not going to buy what you want me to buy. I’m going to buy what I want” Mind you, we included things on that list like coloring books and crayons because she is worth a cool mil yet is so tight she squeaks.
Tell me again who she loves. It is only herself.
Sorry to hear that.
Merry Christmas netmilsmom.
My mother gives my kids large gifts of cash every year at Hanukkah which is always appreciated.
When I was first married, my late MIL used to buy me the most hideous flashy “bling” jewelry that I wouldn’t wear to a Michael Vick dogfight or a Mike Tyson personfight.
Now she has 5 great-granddaughters named after her, and one of them has already shown signs of having inherited the dreaded “Bling” gene.
Man, I hate this woman and I don’t even know her. Is that bad?
Indeed.
I’d be very, very, very inclined to set mom down . . . for a very firm talk. Though I suppose it might depend on how much I cared about being disinherited! LOL.
Mom, you can continue to be selfish, proud and stubborn in how you relate to us at times—especially around gift giving—and be remembered as such.
Or, you can become a lot closer to us emotionally and a lot more integrated into our daily lives and hearts.
The choices is yours. But you will not be able to be a lot closer to us emotionally and a lot more integrated into our lives and hearts
IF
you insist on stubbornly holding on to your arrogant and selfish ways of relating to us. I’d think that growing old that way would get lonlier and lonelier. But the choice is yours.
I’d like you to think about that and maybe pray about it for 12-14 days. Then respond. I won’t entertain a response before then.
IF
I don’t hear a response within 12-20 days, I will assume that you wish to maintain your distant lonely stance from us.