Your best bet is to do the exact opposite ow what the liberal social engineers recommend.
Ping for your insight.
Very well done! I agree with you completely!
You post, I bump.
Thanks Joanie!
Children need clear and well maintained boundaries in order to feel secure. That takes time, and time (yours) and attention are the coin in which they view their riches. Misbehaving is usually an attempt to get attention, to push the boundaries, or both.
Beautiful post. Beautiful.
“Prepare your child to control his or her own behavior, even when other children don’t.”
I’d put that at the top in hiarchy. Once you leave, that’s the first defense for the child.
“Find classrooms well-equipped to handle behavior problems.”
Or find classrooms least likely to promote behavior problems. By looking to “handle” the problem, you’ve already surrendered your control over the environment.
Just my 2 cents worth. Nice article.
Stop the daycare.
May our children’s roots
Be grounded in God’s love
As we teach them daily
To always look above
Thanks for the beautiful thoughts at the end of a long day, Joanie!
Looking back at my childrens early years, the most serious mistake that my wife and I made was owning a television and allowing the girls to watch it.
BTTT to read tomorrow!
Thanks in advance...!
joanie,
Thanks for the article and the ping. You are truly a gem and one of the main reasons that I come to FR.
I thought I was going to read a thread about the TV docu-drama and Paul McCartney’s band. It just goes to show you how the culture has warped my mind. (JUST KIDDING)
Thanks for your OUTSTANDING essay, observations joanie-f.
Excellent as always Joanie!
Thanks for taking the time to write it!
The ENTIRE problem can be traced to one thing IMHO and that is that the idea of family is crumbling in todays world. We have lost the sense of community that not so long ago prevailed in this country.
When I was growing up I not only had both of my parents around most of the time but I had brothers, sisters, grandfathers, grandmothers, aunts, uncles, cousins, and neighbors around as well. No child lacked for someone to look up to in those days. In my case it was my grandfather who REALLY shaped my thinking and, without doubt, I learned FAR more from him regarding life, and how to deal with it, than ever I did from 16 years of formal schooling. THAT is what we have lost, it is irreplaceable, and sadly, I don’t know that it can be regained short of some MAJOR upheaval.
My kids have been homeschooled most of their lives. The past couple years they've been 'public schooled'. There has NOT been a day where they have not BEGGED me to homeschool again. NOT because they dislike the idea of getting up, bussing, going out to a building......but BECAUSE they can't stand the disgusting behaviors and scholastic laziness of the other kids.Every day they come home and tell me what wrong which kid did.
HMMPH...maybe I actually taught them something right. Something that the NEA won't allow them to be taught in school.(you know their mantra,'there is no right',there is no wrong,there are no moral absolutes.)
Thank you again,joanie
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May I be so bold as to elaborate and expand on one of your points?
Parents of the boomer years gave up on their responsibility to give their children spiritual roots. They look back on their days of sitting in the pew with disgust and a claim to allow their children to choose what they believe when they are adults. Unfortunately with no religious training at all, these children flounder and search for a higher power - but reject Christianity due to their parents disdain. The grandchildren of great Christians turn to forms of paganism, instead of the faith of their fathers. Some parents are aghast, but should they be? The parents neglected the spiritual education in favor of sleeping in on Sundays, and personal enjoyment.
All human beings have within them an innate desire to find purpose and meaning beyond the here and now. Parents who all their children to choose should not be surprised when the choices show no resemblance to the parent's beliefs.
Awesome list and insights.
The point is, children need sheltered time to be children. There is plenty of time for academics later - IF the child has been nurtured, cared for, allowed to explore and develop at his own pace. Too many people dump their kids into all-day preschools as an alternative to day care, and then wonder why the kids have problems.
Great read Joanie !!
.......we are up too our hips in good kids around here. I have a coworker who told me a tale the other day about his son that wants to go on the rodeo circuit and be a bull rider etc .......He’s a awesome young man. He made a deal with a local rancher to get up every morning for a calender year and help that rancher feed and water his horses and he could pick a new colt from the lot of em.......
This kid gets up every morning, 7 days a week, at 0430L and works till 8AM when , during the week, he comes home and gets ready for school where he maintains a straight A grades.
This kid is 10 years old and now has a new colt he’s raising.......:o)
I think there is hope for our future as we have a whole lot of polite, intelligent, motivated kids that seem to get very little press for being good and doing the right thing.
We have our troubles as does all towns but when I see the few bad it is washed away, hidden and overcome by the good.
We need to keep throwing our time, money and praise to the local girls and boys in scouting, sports, tutoring and mentoring etc as much as our schedule allows as these kids are just like we were......just looking for a little recognition, respect an praise when they do the right thing for themselves and others.
We have lots of quotes on signs around the Schools and Scouting Huts etc and the one that seems to be popular on T-Shirts is :
Integrity .....doing the right thing even if no one is watching.
Stay Safe Young Lady !