I don’t think it’s fair for her to generalize like that. I’ve personally known women who were loving and faithful wives, good mothers and their husbands were cheating pigs.
“I don’t think it’s fair for her to generalize like that. I’ve personally known women who were loving and faithful wives, good mothers and their husbands were cheating pigs.”
Where exactly did she generalize?
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,”
She doesn’t say that it’s always the woman’s fault. What she does say is that men have certain needs just as women do, and that when women fail to meet the needs of their men, expect the relationship to end up on the rocks, the same way a relationship will end up on the rocks when a man doesn’t meet the needs of his wife.
I think it’s a fair point, and more a message to married women than to those who just went through a split.
They may be cheating pigs, but you don't know if they were "loving and faithful wives", especially the loving part.
My ex was not a loving wife. She was a good mother, but unaffectionate and sexually unavailable; and I never cheated on her. There is no excuse for sex outside of marriage.
From the article:
Schlessinger later emphasized that she was not excusing Spitzer’s behavior. Nor, she said, was she saying that his wife, Silda Spitzer, was in some way to blame for his indiscretion.
“I do not know anything about their personal lives,” she said.
But, she persisted, frequently when there is infidelity in marriage, both spouses share the blame.
RTFA!!!!!
Yes, far too many of them, not just cheating but totally selfish in other ways too. Then the wife gets dumped, which is an almost sure way to severely reduced standards of living if not near poverty for her and "their" kids.