A murderer is responsible for shooting someone in the head, even if that person called them an ugly name.
A rapist is still a rapist, even if the victim wore a mini-skirt.
A molester is still a molester, even if the child's mama said it was OK.
An unfaithful spouse is still unfaithful not matter what they want to believe is the cause.
Laura is a woman who hates herself (for being a woman who broke up a marriage). The easiest way to assuage her guilt is to make life hell for other females AND blame the women who's hubbies were untrue....which in turn absolves her of all guilt in her hubbies ruined marriage.
...An unfaithful spouse is still unfaithful not matter what they want to believe is the cause.
No one is disputing that. The cheater made a conscious decision to cheat, so they will ALWAYS be blameworthy. I think we're in agreement on that.
But do you also agree that there at least some instances of infidelity that might have been prevented if one spouse had been more attentive to the needs of the other? To me, that was the main point that Laura was trying to make...it was not that any of the underlying causes absolved the cheating spouse's guilt.
Laura is a woman who hates herself (for being a woman who broke up a marriage). The easiest way to assuage her guilt is to make life hell for other females AND blame the women who's hubbies were untrue....which in turn absolves her of all guilt in her hubbies ruined marriage.
Maybe so. I'm not really concerned with her motives, though.
That's quite a diagnoses. I'd like to know how you came to that conclusion. Have you spoken with her?