Men are visual and looks attract them immediately. Men look for subtance later. Women are emotional and looks arent’ what motivates them to romance, although it plays a part.
Many met get better looking as you get to know them. I don’t know if most men would give an average looking woman much of a chance. Wait...my husband did! ;)
susie
Mostly true. Now that I’m older (than dirt) though, I consider other things far more important.
On our first date, I was VERY nervous and wanted to make sure we weren’t late to the movie, we ended up being very early, instead. My wife immediately wanted to go the bookstore.
I knew right then that I wanted to marry her.
Women fall in love first, then we are attracted to the person; men are attracted first, then fall in love latter.
I think the nonverbals from women are related to most approach avoidance problems many women have. Number one complaint many men have with the women in their lives...”Sometimes you have to talk to me straight and say exactly what you mean, I AM NOT A MIND READER!”
I also think that personal honesty is a very hard goal to achieve and maintain constantly for both men and women. The nonverbals that many women resort to can be a sign of that dishonesty especially when employed as conflict avoidance mechanisms. As for college age boys(I assume 18 to 24), their inability to pick up on clues is simply a sign of immaturity and inexperience on their part. Many of them need to read Proverbs concerning Solomon’s advice in avoiding the “adventurous woman”. Like the old song goes....”Smiling faces...smiling faces...sometimes...don’t tell the truth!”