It's not cheating if I leave my socks on, is it?
Posted on 03/29/2008 2:48:45 AM PDT by JohnHuang2
Adultery has been hitting Page One every other day.
New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer's dalliance with a prostitute is followed by the admission by his successor, Gov. David Paterson, of multiple affairs he claims were provoked by his wife's infidelity. This week Detroit's mayor was charged with using millions of city funds to buy off police officers who threatened to expose his affair with his chief of staff.
Just how common is adultery? How often does it destroy marriage?
Most couples are faithful. A study by E.O. Laumann and others reports that 10 percent of both men and women have had an affair by their 10th anniversary. By the 30th anniversary, 30 percent of men and 20 percent of women confessed to adultery. It is not as common as Hollywood's "Desperate Housewives" suggests.
However, many affairs do not threaten a marriage because they are kept secret. In only 12 percent of marriages, do spouses learn their partner cheated on them, according to a 20-year study of 2,000 married people by Pennsylvania State University's Paul Amato. He acknowledges this estimate is low, because some people don't want to talk with researchers about it. And others divorced soon after the affair and could not be interviewed.
What happens when adultery is discovered? "There are two bad outcomes," Mr. Amato reports. Three years later, 24 percent of couples have divorced. Another 42 percent remain married but are unhappy. Only 34 percent have rebuilt trust enough to say they are "very happy."
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A marriage wrecker?...for me it is.
It's not cheating if I leave my socks on, is it?
However, if the adultery has not been discovered yet and the adulterer wants to keep the family and marriage together, they must do two things:
End the affair immediately and permnently.
Confess your sin to God but DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT confess to your spouse.
If you have sincerely repented, there is no reason to inflict that kind of pain on your partner who may eventually forgive you but who will NEVER EVER forget.
Now that’s funny!
What loser Boss Eliot turned out to be, the most desperate, lying weasel in modern American politics. He truly got caught with is pants down. (Socks up don’t make it right, Eliot!)
I don’t disagree. But men don’t pick up on the signals as fast as women do IMO.
The coach got divorce papers and pays child support, the wife reconciled and after 5 years they seem happy.
I’ve been married for 45 years and lived in the same small town the entire time. Over the years I’ve known of affairs among many of our friends and neighbors. Most were discovered but some weren’t. When discovered misery for all involved was the result. Some of the marriages survived but most didn’t.
Cheaters suck.
My wife’s first husband cheated on her. It lead to their divorce. Of course now she is very sensitive to cheating.
She has sewn homing beacons into the waistband of my underpants and pays toll booth operators to call her when they see me. At least that’s what she told me.
Oh, and she told me that if I ever tried to leave her, she’d kill me. So I figure I’m married for life, one way or the other. LOL!!
“Confess your sin to God but DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT confess to your spouse.”
Agreed.
While admitting infidelity may make the cheater feel absolved from guilt, never telling and having to quietly live with that indiscretion may be an adequate punishment.
For those of us who talk in our sleep, cheating is just not an option.
“Confess your sin to God but DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT confess to your spouse.
If you have sincerely repented, there is no reason to inflict that kind of pain on your partner who may eventually forgive you but who will NEVER EVER forget.”
Not an option - especially for women, who are more susceptible to contracting serious STD-related health conditions.
Anyone who has been cheated on needs to be told so they can be checked for a variety of diseases.
You guys just don’t get it, because you aren’t the ones at risk for cervical cancer and sterility.
“She has sewn homing beacons into the waistband of my underpants and pays toll booth operators to call her when they see me. At least that’s what she told me.”
We had a local case where a wife was suspicious and put a GPS tracker in her husband’s truck without his knowledge.
Unfortunately for him, one week after she did this - he decided to rape their 14 yr. old babysitter and then kill her by running her over with his truck when she tried to run away.
His story the next day? He was driving her home, they stopped to look at some horses, and somehow he “accidentally” hit her. He claims he immediately took her to the hospital.
Can you imagine his surprise when he found out GPS tracker pintpointed his every move - could describe his speed when he aimed and hit her -and could tell that he waited 5 hrs. before he took her to the ER?
sometimes there is justice.
The Democrats do it for the children.
That’s an awful story.
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