Wow, this article really struck a chord with me. My mother was also a feminist. She hoped I would chose a career over children, and was shocked when I decided to give up a well established career to raise my three kids.
I was also surprised how much I fell in love with my kids, and simply couldn’t get excited about a career after they came alone. I felt like I had been lied to all my life, and had been groomed to fit a mold I didn’t want.
Having said that, the similarities end there. My mom really loved me, took good care of me and we had a great relationship while she was alive. She eventually came to the point where she supported my decision. My kids turned out great, and she respected that.
That’s a very hopeful story. Thank you for sharing it.
We also found that much of what we had chased after in life lost its glow after our children came along. Really nothing compared to joy and challenge of raising them.