Where are the parents in the times of their childrens’ crises? I am my children’s crisis team and if I feel I need assistance, I will get it. I don’t want the schools interfering with that parental function. I think we both agree that sometimes help is needed but the issue is how quickly and whether it should be automatic or on an as-needed basis. I vote for as-needed. I do understand your concern about having help within reach to everyone but don’t mess with my kids without my say-so.
“but don’t mess with my kids without my say-so.”
And apparently you don’t get it. No one forces the kids to see anyone if they don’t want to. And if your kids decided to see a counselor without your “permission”, then what? Are you going to punish them for it?