Me and my wife had HUGE problems because of this. However, it was ME that was causing the problems. It took me a while to figure it out. Women like romance, wine and dine etc. They just don't want to be poked then have hubby go out and golf with the boys. It works that way in movies but not in real life.
I’m all for romance. But sometimes there just isn’t time. Sometimes, romance isn’t needed (most of the time it isn’t needed but could make it better, imo, as long as all the important feelings are there).
I was causing the problems back when we had babies. I looked like crap, in my mind (and any mind except my husband’s), covered in spit up or pureed carrots or whatever icky thing they ate or breastfeeding every hour. Then dealing with toddlers or pre school age kids on top of it. He’d come home from work and I just couldn’t imagine he found me attractive. It was nightime before I had a chance to shower for goodness sake, lol.
It’s hard living with anyone, imo. I’m not the easiest person to live with for sure. Humor goes a long way, imo.
I learned that it’s ok and feels just as good and means just as much regardless of all the incidentals. Romance is fine and great but can’t always have that kind of time.