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Why Men Can't Remember Anniversaries?
Web India 123 ^ | 07.20.2008 | UNI

Posted on 07/20/2008 9:30:34 AM PDT by Coffee200am

Oops ! He forgot your birthday again. Well do not blame his memory for this innocent forgetfulness as the the reason behind it is down in the genes.

While men may fail to match a woman's ability to remember the date of an anniversary, they are better at storing a seemingly endless cache of facts and figures and all this is because of genetic differences.

Researchers at the Institute of Psychiatry, King's College London, have found that males use different genes from females when making the new connections in the brain that are needed to create long-term memories. They believe this might explain why men are far better at remembering ''tactical'' memories, such as travel directions and trivia, while women form more ''emotional'' memories such as birthdays, wedding anniversaries and details about the world around them. Professor Peter Giese, who led the Medical Research Council- funded research , said they had identified two genes that seemed to be important for learning and making memories in males but not females. ''It is unexpected that there should be such a difference within a species, but then we have to remember that males and females are far from identical at the genetic level as males have an X and Y chromosome while females have two X chromosomes. It is conceivable that the differences we found do account for the differences in the way the memories of men and women perform in different circumstances, '' he said.

The researchers used mice to study the role that certain genes play in how long-term memories are made in males and females. Using a series of tests such as a maze they were able to show that male mice were faster at making the spatial memories that allowed them to learn a route out of the maze. ''We see these sex differences in humans too as males and females use different strategies when it comes to remembering a route through a city, for example. In some tasks males are better than females and in other occasions females are better than males, '' Professor Giese said.

''These genetic differences could be very important in studying diseases like Alzheimer's, where memory is affected. Females are affected by Alzheimer's more than males, so it could mean the way females make memories is more vulnerable to disease.''


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: anniversaries; brain; genderwars; godsgravesglyphs; memory; men; phonenumbers; samebsdifferentday; sexdifferences; women
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1 posted on 07/20/2008 9:30:34 AM PDT by Coffee200am
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To: Coffee200am

I’d forget my own name if people(females) weren’t yelling it at me all the time. I can go to Anytown USA one time and find my way around years later though.


2 posted on 07/20/2008 9:36:16 AM PDT by allmost
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To: Coffee200am
An anniversary day is not inherently important. What is, is either the memory of the importance of that day, which can be realized at any moment of any day, or, the importance of the person with whom that long ago occasion had any meaning, which may mean you are continually grateful for someone in your life and need no “special day” to make that person important, again.

Anniversaries are much over-rated. Live your life the best you can, be grateful for that which you have or have had, and go on.

Something that marks something on a yearly basis has very little meaning. Why tie yourself only to a day of memories or thanks?

3 posted on 07/20/2008 9:40:13 AM PDT by ConservativeMind
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To: Coffee200am
We men have badly needed an excuse for this problem and this appears to provide it.

Thanks

4 posted on 07/20/2008 9:46:43 AM PDT by cerberus
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To: Coffee200am

I *do* remember days and months. It’s just that I never know what day I live on.


5 posted on 07/20/2008 9:48:11 AM PDT by Codename - Ron Benjamin (Pre-emptive, multi-tasking, interrupt control)
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To: Coffee200am

My husband never forgets.

And I don’t even have to remind him.


6 posted on 07/20/2008 9:49:00 AM PDT by CaptainK (...please make it stop. Shake a can of pennies at it.)
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To: Coffee200am

I picked Ground Hog’s day to get married. The husband gets reminded of it when he gets up that morning and the ground hog sees his shadow. He never forgets.


7 posted on 07/20/2008 9:51:08 AM PDT by KYGrandma (The sun shines bright on my old Kentucky home)
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To: CaptainK

Maybe he signed up for the florist that calls two weeks before any big event. :)

It’s a real life saver. They call and I still have time to look like a nice guy.


8 posted on 07/20/2008 9:51:44 AM PDT by MediaMole
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To: Coffee200am
Last year at Christmas, my hubby turned to me and said, "Oh honey, by the way -- happy anniversary..."

We both laughed because our wedding anniversary, Nov. 10, had come and gone and BOTH of us had forgotten it. I must be some sort of genetic freak, because I think I'm the only female I know that could care less about dates and greeting-card holidays.

A strong marriage all year long, imho, trumps a card and flowers one day a year. But that's just me. I could be wrong.

9 posted on 07/20/2008 9:52:41 AM PDT by RepoGirl ("Tom, I'm getting dead from you, but I'm not getting Undead..." -- Frasier Crane)
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To: CaptainK

"My husband never forgets."

"And I don’t even have to remind him."

Mine doesn't ever forget either. And it's those little things like that make me love him just that much more.


10 posted on 07/20/2008 9:56:09 AM PDT by GloriaJane (http://www.download.com/gloriajane)
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To: Coffee200am
An anniversary day or a Birthday is a excuse to spend money unnecessarily.
What ever happen to the saying " it's the thought that matters the most than the actual gift " right ?
In the passed, people would make homemade gifts instead of going out and buying something they know they can't afford.
People get offended today if you don't buy them the most expensive, most new, up to date gift.
Why men forget anniversaries ? maybe because they are worried about other problems during every day life, or ? maybe it's because they are broke and can't afford to buy a gift, and they want to avoid that day.
11 posted on 07/20/2008 9:58:02 AM PDT by Prophet in the wilderness (PSALM .53 : 1 The FOOL hath said in his heart, there is no GOD.)
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To: ConservativeMind

Well said and right on the button. I’ve been trying to convince my wife that “An anniversary day is not inherently important”, but as expected that effort has been completely unsuccessful. As such, in 3 days I’ll be attempting to come up with yet another creative way to celebrate a day that I have to look up every year to make sure I get the right day.

In fact I’m not certain it’s 3 days from now. *sigh*


12 posted on 07/20/2008 10:04:17 AM PDT by TheZMan (Bitter backwoods east Texan Christian gun clinger with the AC at 72 degrees.)
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To: Coffee200am

I majored in accounting. I have no excuse to forget a date. And I normally don’t.


13 posted on 07/20/2008 10:17:18 AM PDT by AlaskaErik (I served and protected my country for 31 years. Democrats spent that time trying to destroy it.)
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To: Coffee200am
This just says that men are too stupid to use an electronic calendar to remember these days.

Heck, order some flowers online and the company will remind you of the date and occasion.

14 posted on 07/20/2008 10:19:24 AM PDT by Eagle Eye (I'm a RINO cuz I'm too conservative to be a Republican. McCain is the Conservatives true litmus test)
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To: GloriaJane; All

We have a freind who did a very IMO smart thing he married his lifelong woman on his Birthday.

Great plan.


15 posted on 07/20/2008 10:21:49 AM PDT by Global2010 (OKIE DOKIE)
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To: Global2010

That wouldn’t have helped me. I completely forgot it was my birthday this year, until my sister called to nag about my still being older than her.


16 posted on 07/20/2008 10:44:12 AM PDT by ASA Vet
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To: Coffee200am
MGD was visiting with a friend and his father in the father's kitchen one day, when suddenly, the older gentleman looked up at the clock, said, "Oh, cr@p!" and ran out the door.

Puzzled, the boys looked at the area near the clock only to notice a commemorative plate next to it. On the plate was the couple's anniversary date--which was the next day.

17 posted on 07/20/2008 11:04:04 AM PDT by Mygirlsmom ("My advice: Quit supporting the party that is symbolized by an ass." Ted Nugent)
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To: Coffee200am

I picked Christmas to get engaged and Valentine’s day to get married.

And, our birthdays are only days apart in April, so we celebrate those together.

So, I got all the important dates covered and won’t forget. I won’t be able to forget. Hmmm, wonder if I forgot something already?


18 posted on 07/20/2008 11:50:30 AM PDT by AlmaKing
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To: CaptainK
My husband never forgets.
And I don’t even have to remind him.

The best present my wife ever gave me was forgetting my Birthday two years ago. I was on pins and needles all day, fearful she'd remember.

The gift that keeps on giving... !

: )

19 posted on 07/20/2008 11:51:46 AM PDT by Publius6961 (You're Government, it's not your money, and you never have to show a profit.)
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To: Publius6961
The best present my wife ever gave me was forgetting my Birthday two years ago.

Luck you, I've been trying to get people to forget my birthday for the last 20 years with no luck.

20 posted on 07/20/2008 1:58:37 PM PDT by rllngrk33 (The RATs and Media are the enemy.)
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