Posted on 08/04/2008 6:00:07 AM PDT by FreeManDC
Why should I feel sorry for them? I often go to the mall and see stuff I can’t afford to buy.
Somehow I suspect that the con-artists, etc. mentioned in this article are something of the exception, rather than the rule.
Geez, is this really true? Someone sure is out to put the abuse shelters ina bad light.
Judge Judy says, “You picked him/her”.
By the way, the article mentioned TANF. I believe that stands for Temporary Assistance to Needy Families.
Where there’s some possibility of a little free cash, there will always be scammers nearby.
Sniff. How COULD they? How COULD they prosecute this woman?
When you give charity to someone, how can you prosecute them for what they spend the money on?
Next we'll be charging panhandlers for spending money MEANT for food on dope and alcohol instead.
The cases mentioned here are the logical conclusion of the nationwide impementation of the politics of victimhood.
Get ready for a veritable tidal wave of such behavior at ALL levels of “community aid” once B. Hussein Obama is sworn in as our new Chancellor, and Nancy Pelosi, Harry Reid and George Soros are REALLY calling the shots.
There are battered women who leave their husbands/boyfriends and go to partner up with women only to learn that women too can be dominant and physically abusive in relationships. The system seems to tell them only beware of men, not of abusive and manipulative “people”.
Actually, you might be wrong about that. I once was a volunteer at one of these shelters. My friend and I volunteered from 9-5, 5 days a week. The longer we were there, the more we came to realize that many of the women (and children) there were just gaming the system. They had figured out that if they came in with a sad enough story, they would be provided with a clean room, 3 squares a day, child care, sent to visit doctors if necessary, and pretty much everything they needed.
All they had to do was make up some tale about some man abusing them--no proof needed--and they could stay up to 2 months at the shelter.
It took my friend and I a while to figure this out, as we were much younger and more inexperienced than we are now. In fact, in the end, she and I got "fired" from our volunteer positions because we decided that the women and children staying there should live by the rules of the house. We started really enforcing them--and were told by the paid director that we were "unfeeling and uncaring".
This was my first exposure to liberalism in action.
So it's the woman's fault if she married a man who turns out to be a wife beater? Really?
I’m not sure I understand the upshot of this story. Are there people out there scamming the system? Sure. So the actions of a loud, but exceedingly small group of people diminishes the reality that the huge majority of people going to these shelters really need them? Holy crap.
This, uh, journalism is at the same level of those who wish to demean an entire religion based on the actions of a very small number (percentage wise) of rogue priests.
I try very hard to avoid painting the vast midddle with tiny extreme.
This is the other side of the coin that the MSM/govt doesn’t want you to hear about. Whether it’s the exception or the rule isn’t something that can be determined on a message board. No doubt there are women abused by their husbands, just as there are many men abused by their wives. That tragedy doesn’t discount the fact there are obviously many who so hate men that they are willing to lie and manipulate the system.
I'd suspect that the legit shelters + people who use them, love to see the bad apples weeded out.
“Why should you feel sorry for women beaten by their husbands? Are you really looking for an answer?
Somehow I suspect that the con-artists, etc. mentioned in this article are something of the exception, rather than the rule.”
There is no question whatsoever that you are correct.
I think what Judge Judy means is that there’s typically signs long before the marriage, i.e., days, weeks, months into the relationship, long before a marriage even occurs.
I once dated a lady to took up the battered spouse and rape crisis cause because a she and a friend had been raped in a short period of time. What she found when she joined certain organizations disgusted her to the point of quickly leaving them.
These organizations were dominated by lesbian women who were filling the void of a stable relationship with a male. The victimized women soon suffered from the same abuses (manipulation, isolation, mental and physical abuse). Being an 'angel of mercy' to victimized women -- at their most vulnerable points in their lives -- made the lesbian hook ups much easier. Some women were literally passed around from counseler to counseler.
“the system” is a cog in the machine bent on destruction of the family unit.
Since a woman married to a man constitutes a family, and a women shacking with a woman does not, only the “heteronormative” relationship gets the scrutiny.
No it’s her fault for staying with him.
A man doesn’t “turn out” to be a wife beater, or violent, or abusive.
A man IS a violent, abusive, wife beater, or he is not.
(Barring a severe head injury altering personality, of course.)
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