Skip to comments.Woman Told of Fetal Abnormalities: "I Will Not be the Killing Hand"
Posted on 08/06/2008 4:15:52 PM PDT by wagglebee
OTTAWA, August 5, 2008 (LifeSiteNews.com) - 20 weeks into her pregnancy, a happily married Catholic teacher was informed her baby had holoprocencephaly - a hole in the brain stem - as well as fluid in the brain and a severe heart condition. After being given her medical "options", including the choice to terminate her baby's life, she informed her doctor that she refused to be the one responsible for her child's death, trusting that God had a plan for her son.
"Termination was not an option for me, and I informed the doctor of this immediately," said the woman, who wishes to remain anonymous. "He is our creation and God's creation and we will take him as he comes."
The woman related the details of her story to LifeSiteNews.com in a telephone interview and a letter. The woman, who is still pregnant with her child, decided to come forward with her story in the hope that it would encourage other women, in similar circumstances, to embrace the challenges of going through with a difficult pregnancy, even when the prognosis for the child is extremely grim. No matter how seemingly certain the imminent death of an unborn child may be, she said, we can never be justified in taking innocent life.
"With each new day, I learn to accept this situation," she said. "For example, I know that I cannot change my circumstances, and therefore must proceed with the daily grind of life. In other ways, it becomes more difficult. It is a very odd experience to be pregnant, knowing that I may never get to bring my baby home from the hospital, and that instead of anticipating his whole life, I may have to prepare for his funeral and burial."
"Quality of life" considerations were given by doctors as reasons to kill the child in the womb; however, once the mother informed her doctor that she would not take the life of her baby, she says she had "100 percent support" from the medical professionals looking after her.
She did say, however, "had I not been so definitely opposed, the option of abortion may have been the end of my story (except for future psychiatric pills)" - referring to the morally neutral manner in which abortion is presented as an "option" to patients and the well-known negative psychological effects that arise as a consequence.
"I am sure that for many women, abortion is strongly recommended in cases like mine, especially if women do not have a strong belief about it originally," she said.
Yet, she issued words of encouragement to other women in her situation, speaking adamantly to the fact that a child's apparent lesser "quality of life" based on a grim medical diagnosis does not discount the fact that the child has been given the gift of life for a reason - even if it is unbeknown to others.
She observed that in her own case her doctor's initial "certain" prognosis that her child would not live outside the womb soon transformed into the doctor saying he could not predict when the baby will die. Furthermore, her child has already defied the probabilities, as many unborn babies with such severe health conditions would have self-aborted within the first few months of gestation.
"I say he must really be extraordinary to be discounting all medical theories with respect to chromosome-gene results, and his longevity," she said of her child. "I tell him that even the doctors aren't sure why he's lived so long (most babies with these abnormalities self-abort long before now), and that he is special because of this. I tell you this because I want you to know that, despite the grim outlook I am carrying this baby as long as he will let me, and will not be the killing hand."
The woman hopes that her story will help make others aware of the side of the abortion debate not usually covered by the mainstream media, the side that affirms the intrinsic goodness and beauty of human life, no matter how short-lived, or seemingly "useless" it may be.
"I wish with my heart of hearts that they know of the good that will come," she explained.
"The little one in my womb is moving around, kicking his mother, and hopefully enjoying a refreshing swim. I am told that he knows no pain, and that while he is in the uterus, he is as safe as can be. I walk him every day, talk to him often, and pray for him always," she said.
As for what she and her husband expect in the long run, she said, "Our prayer is simple: That we will get to meet our little one, tell him that we love him, and watch him fall deep into a sleep that will bring him to heaven."
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A bump and a prayer for this brave woman, her husband and their child.
Prayers for the family and this little one.
God Bless them.
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Prayers that once again the medical community is proved wrong and they have a perfect baby.
A wonderful woman. God bless her and her husband for their unselfish choice.
96% of all babies given a diagnosis of Down’s Syndrome are killed in-utero (and who knows how often the baby is perfectly normal). I imagine the percentage of abortions is higher for situations like this woman’s.
God bless her and may her story inspire others.
I know several families with Down’s children and while there are certainly “difficulties” that are peculiar to Down’s, they are typically among the most loving children you will ever meet.
Twenty five years ago, I had a cousin born with very severe birth defects and my aunt and uncle knew when he was born that they would only be able to spend a very short time with them. He died when he was four days old, my aunt and uncle have said that they wouldn’t trade those few days for everything in the world.
The picture with the article show clearly the child does have a serious medical problem, that being said, God does do miracles.
Abortion is never the answer
God bless this mother who knows we are the servants, and not the masters, of life.
May God bless this woman and her family. If it be his will, bring this baby safely into the world, healthy and whole.
I don’t know how to read ultrasounds. I figure I’m doing good if I can tell it’s a baby, much less anything else.
I remember when I was offered to have the amniocentesis test performed on me because I was 37 years old pregnant with my first child and I flatly told the doctor, there would be no need for this test, the outcome surely would not factor into my decision to have my baby.
My son was born 23 days early and weighed in at 7.13. I would have loved him no matter how he was born. My son was born with low blood pressure and a team of doctors swarmed into the delivery room and off he went to the NICU but I had a calmness about myself because I was in the best Boston hospital for delivering babies..Brigham & Women's and he did a complete turn-a-round and joined me in my room.
My one and only 9 1/2 year old son can try my patience for sure from time to time but he is my one and only and I waited so long to have him, I am a happy lady!
All babies are special!
Same thing happened to my wife and I. He put a ton of pressure on us to get the test. We flatly told him, it wasn't going to happen and if we needed to change physicians, now was the time to fish or cut bait
We had to sign a waiver not to sue if there was a problem.
The caption on the ultrasound picture indicates that it is from an anonymous mother and does not indicate that there are any abnormalities.
We were advised to get the alpha fetoprotein test and I asked the NP if that was the one that gave a false positive at a ratio of 80:1 and she said, “Yes” and I said, “No”. I told her that it wouldn’t make any difference in our decision to keep the baby; abortion was not an option.
She looked me in the eye and said, “I wish more people felt that way.” and never had a bit of grief about it after that.
"Quality of Life" my foot.
All men and women are destined for the grave eventually. They will not escape. The oppressors will be judged, and the oppressees vindicated.
The LORD bless and keep this women, her husband, and their son, and multiply these blessings.
Interesting that there is such an emphasis on “genetic counseling” which is really just a euphemism for eugenics counseling.
Sometimes having information is not a good thing. I wonder how many parents have been unnecessarily agitated by tests that indicate that there is an elevated chance of their child having some sort of genetic anomaly, when the reality is the kid was just fine all along, not to mention the infanticides that result.
Genetic counseling is one of those things you should just say “no” to.
I agree- I know of two moms that were told their babies were not going to be able to survive their genetic problems, had to abort. Both refused, one a worman I worked with, one my daughter.
Both babies healthy and no problems at all. Can’t help but wonder how often that happens.
As has happened with two of my friends, both of whom were advised to abort.
I hear of it happening far too often.
I almost never hear of someone having a perfect sonogram only to have a child with some birth defect that they didn’t catch.