Actually, if what I read was correct, the team he was asked to play for was an opposing team in the same league. Did I read that incorrectly?
If he was slated to play for a superior team in the same league, this is an outcome-based decision, rather than a game-based decision.
If you think about it, this would be the best education for the kids...if you excel in something, you move up...people notice you...that's how the world works. ESPECIALLY SPORTS. Again, I think this has all to do with this women's ego and not much to do with what is best for her son.