I’m glad your daughter was fine.
When we were in college, my husband (then new boyfriend) ate a snickers, which has peanuts! Since he developed his peanut allergy in his late teens, he had always eaten peanuts, peanut butter, etc. So he decided to chance it and we ended up in the school infirmary (Ritenour, sp) all damn night.
Anyway, since we’ve been married, I never cook with peanut oil, keep the peanut butter cookies away from the other cookies, no chick peas or any legumes, etc. since he’s allergic to those. We were at a wedding and there were chick peas in the salad. His throat closed up, not a pretty sight. He didn’t have any salad with chick peas but the juice caused it.
Bottom line, he doesn’t expect any concessions and manages his allergies. Before we got our own pool we used to belong to a neighborhood pool. The Dad of one of the kids there wanted us not to bring PB&J to the pool because his kid was allergic. I guess he thought the smell of the peanut butter would send his kid into shock or something.
It's his property. He has the right to have it as he wants. That's the libertarian mantra. Why criticize him for it and disparage him like that?
We solved this “problem” without Gubmint help.