I hear you, 30 years ago it would have been a belt.
Seriously, we are not doing our kids any favors by not showing them that screwing up causes PAIN. Real life will kick your ass far worse than a spanking. Consider it a real lightweight punishment compared to what getting addicted to drugs and pregnant then being a single mom will do to you.
I’m in my 40s and my parents never laid a hand on me. I was never spanked and my kids have never been spanked.
Something was seriously wrong in this family. The kid ran away with a 47 yr old man when she was 12.