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Jenny Sanford "may forgive" governor
town hall ^ | 7.3.09

Posted on 07/02/2009 1:31:17 PM PDT by meandog

The wife of embattled South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford called his affair with an Argentine woman "inexcusable" but said Thursday she is willing to forgive him.

Jenny Sanford's e-mailed statement was her first public comment since her husband told The Associated Press earlier this week that his mistress is his soul mate but he is trying to fall back in love with his wife.

"My forgiveness is essential for us both to move on with our lives, with peace, in whatever direction that may take us," Jenny Sanford said in the statement. "Mark has stated that his intent and determination is to save our marriage, and to make amends to the people of South Carolina. I hope he can make good on those intentions, and for the sake of our boys."

She said it is up to South Carolina voters and elected officials to decide whether they can "give Mark another chance."

Sanford returned last week from a secret trip to Argentina to see his mistress, Maria Belen Chapur. His staff had told the public he was hiking the Appalachian Trail, and he later apologized for misleading them.

Jenny Sanford told The Associated Press then that she learned of the affair in January when she discovered a letter Sanford had written to Chapur. She said he had repeatedly asked permission to go Argentina to see Chapur, but she denied it.

Spokesman Joel Sawyer said Thursday that Mark Sanford plans to spend the holiday weekend with his wife and sons in Florida, where his in-laws live.

"He remains committed and determined to repair the damage he has done in his marriage and to building back the trust of the people of South Carolina," Sawyer said.

(Excerpt) Read more at townhall.com ...


TOPICS: Extended News; Politics/Elections; US: South Carolina
KEYWORDS: jennysanford; sanford
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To: SonOfDarkSkies
They are both serious Christians and can, with some counseling, work this thing out. People make mistakes all the time and somehow the world keeps on turning (hey...that sounds like a soap opera)

While I don't disagree with you, I would like to point out that he first has to seek forgiveness by being sorry for his deeds...he just said yesterday essentially that he was in love with another woman. Taking him back now would just be enabling his sin of adultery.

41 posted on 07/02/2009 1:57:33 PM PDT by meandog (Doh!)
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To: meandog
where his in-laws live.

Well, that should be nice relaxing trip for ol' Mark!

42 posted on 07/02/2009 1:59:33 PM PDT by CaptRon
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To: driftdiver
I never said she's noble. Whether she's satan incarnate or pure as the driven snow, his actions were that of a miserable husband, a miserable public office holder and a miserable person.

It used to be that conservatives were big on personal responsibility and yet here on a conservative forum, in a discussion about a nominally conservative governor, we're looking for external causes, explanations and excuses for why his behavior was anything other than miserable.

43 posted on 07/02/2009 2:00:12 PM PDT by Joe 6-pack (Que me amat, amet et canem meum)
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To: marvlus
It may take a long time, if at all, for the wife to ever trust her husband again.

Then she hasn't actually forgiven him.

44 posted on 07/02/2009 2:00:16 PM PDT by Eagle Eye (If John Kerry is the benchmark for patriotism I'll be a proud traitor.)
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To: NEMDF
I don’t read it as her “taking him back” as much as her committing to move on and not allow her anger or bitterness poison the lives of her children and herself.

Well, perhaps I'm misreading it...it sounded to me that she was a bit too eager to let him off the hook before he was completely "cured" of the sin of betraying her with his love for another woman (stated, essentially, just yesterday)/

45 posted on 07/02/2009 2:00:29 PM PDT by meandog (Doh!)
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To: meandog

oh well...it’s her life. If she chooses to stay with this loser after he has admittedly cheated on her so many times...and raise her sons in this same environment...then so be it.


46 posted on 07/02/2009 2:04:00 PM PDT by cubreporter
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To: Joe 6-pack

Oh he’s an idiot.

I’m guessing she’s a calculating woman.


47 posted on 07/02/2009 2:05:12 PM PDT by driftdiver (I could eat it raw, but why do that when I have a fire.)
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To: meandog
I completely agree.

It's going to be a real boot camp of reconciliation with many changes all round.

Sanford's type of infidelity doesn't occur in a vacuum and, as an old friend of mine (who's a shrink) used to say, there are no innocent parties in a marriage.

48 posted on 07/02/2009 2:05:29 PM PDT by SonOfDarkSkies (Obama: "Enough about me, let's talk about you...what do you think of me?")
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To: Batman11
Oh please, just cut his nuts off and lets go on to the next story. Anything, as long as I don’t have to continue to see this crap

That's right its always the guys fault never the wife's fault for marriage problems.There victims always.

49 posted on 07/02/2009 2:08:51 PM PDT by bikerman (Free men do not ask permission to bear arms.)
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To: meandog

He must have an enormous schwanzstucker.


50 posted on 07/02/2009 2:17:30 PM PDT by RckyRaCoCo (I hear the words of Jefferson louder and louder as each day passes)
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To: Eagle Eye

No, trust and forgiveness are two different things. Forgiveness is an act of love and one can forgive even those who are crucifying you. Forgiveness does not deny that the forgiven person has done/is doing wrong.

Reconciliation cannot take place until the offender honestly admits he did wrong and asks to be forgiven. But you can forgive even your enemy before your enemy asks for forgiveness. He remains your enemy but a forgiven enemy. Jesus did that on the cross.

The enemy ceases to be enemy only when he admits he injured you and is truly sorry, contrite.

Even then, you cannot immediately trust someone who was your enemy. He is forgiven and is no longer your enemy but he has to earn back trust and it can take a long, long time.

But forgiveness can be unilateral—otherwise, how could Christ have forgiven those who were crucifying him?

Forgiveness can be unilateral but reconciliation, enemy-ceasing and regaining trustworthiness must be bi-lateral.


51 posted on 07/02/2009 2:22:07 PM PDT by Houghton M.
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To: meandog
his mistress is his soul mate but he is trying to fall back in love with his wife.

Who in their right mind would stay with someone who said that? She's crazy if she stays with him. He'll only be a constant reminder of the affair and public humiliation. So sad.

52 posted on 07/02/2009 2:23:36 PM PDT by dragonblustar ("... and if you disagree with me, then you sir, are worse than Hitler!" - Greg Gutfeld)
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To: meandog

I’m beginning to think she’s as certifiably insane as he is.


53 posted on 07/02/2009 2:27:12 PM PDT by GovernmentShrinker
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To: Houghton M.

Can there be genuine forgiveness if the forgiving party cannot or will not put themselves back in the position of vulnerability?

Forgiveness doesn’t mean fogetting but refusing to trust indicates a lack of forgiveness.


54 posted on 07/02/2009 2:30:23 PM PDT by Eagle Eye (If John Kerry is the benchmark for patriotism I'll be a proud traitor.)
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To: Always Right
Yeah, shame on her for being Christ-like.

She's not being "Christ-like" she's being an enabler. Christ could only forgive those who were truly sorry...he told the adulterous woman "go AND SIN NO MORE!" Sanford said just yesterday that his heart was with another woman, his "soul-mate," he called her. One can not forgive one who doesn't seek forgiveness first. Better for them to remain apart and for him to work on restoring the marriage, and in so doing a penance, before taking him back.

55 posted on 07/02/2009 2:34:09 PM PDT by meandog (Doh!)
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To: meandog

OH PLEASE..SANFORDS..PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE GO AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


56 posted on 07/02/2009 2:34:48 PM PDT by BerniesFriend (no no..arrrrwwwhhh..as in surprise..)
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To: cricket

I agree, but maybe she’s under pressure from her kids.


57 posted on 07/02/2009 2:44:41 PM PDT by Andy'smom
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To: Houghton M.
No, trust and forgiveness are two different things. Forgiveness is an act of love and one can forgive even those who are crucifying you. Forgiveness does not deny that the forgiven person has done/is doing wrong. Reconciliation cannot take place until the offender honestly admits he did wrong and asks to be forgiven. But you can forgive even your enemy before your enemy asks for forgiveness. He remains your enemy but a forgiven enemy. Jesus did that on the cross.

I believe we are saying the same thing...forgiveness is a two-way street. But one cannot forgive someone until forgiveness is sought and paid for by contrition and the demonstrable effort to change ways.

The enemy ceases to be enemy only when he admits he injured you and is truly sorry, contrite.

Right, and you've just proved my point as well as your own!

...But forgiveness can be unilateral—otherwise, how could Christ have forgiven those who were crucifying him?

He wasn't forgiving them...he was instead sacrificing Himself before the whole world for its eternity and for its collective sins but ONLY IF WE SOUGHT IT FROM GOD! He was begging God to hear our pleas forgiveness when we ask it. This is borne out, IMHO, by his forgiveness of one thief who asked it, but not of the other on the day of his crucifixion...

58 posted on 07/02/2009 2:50:38 PM PDT by meandog (Doh!)
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To: CaptRon

LOL! Excellent point! They’ve told us about everything else - maybe they’ll share some anedcotes about their “vacation.” :)


59 posted on 07/02/2009 2:50:56 PM PDT by ElayneJ
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To: meandog

Time for Jenny to wake up and smell the coffee. Now she is playing the part of his mother, not his wife. It’s over for them and he is the culprit. She needs to move on with her life.


60 posted on 07/02/2009 2:57:27 PM PDT by Hattie
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