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A grief conserved: Perinatal hospice offers alternative to trauma of aborting disabled child
WORLD ^ | August 15, 2009 | Matt Anderson

Posted on 07/31/2009 8:32:29 AM PDT by rhema

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1 posted on 07/31/2009 8:32:29 AM PDT by rhema
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"If the baby is going to die anyway, why do you want to kill it before it dies a natural death?" There was silence on the other end. I went on to explain that the parents would not have to deal with the guilt of killing their child if it died naturally. There was a pause, then, "I hadn't thought of that," she said.

So much for nondirective counseling, as it is called.

Non-directive? Not hardly.

2 posted on 07/31/2009 8:38:15 AM PDT by SuziQ
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The perinatal hospice is a wonderful idea. The author is right, in that the medical community doesn’t have any way to deal with ‘hopeless cases’, especially when dealing with unborn children.


3 posted on 07/31/2009 8:40:35 AM PDT by SuziQ
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And here we’ve been told that people with disabilities have been protected from discrimination in society.

There are charitable organizations that specifically target persons suspected of having birth defects with infanticide.


4 posted on 07/31/2009 8:42:01 AM PDT by a fool in paradise (There is no truth in the Pravda Media.)
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To: rhema
Gee, really?

I'd heard so many good things about partial birth abortions.

Some hospitals even have a “comfort” room (tell me that's not caring and humane) where the parents can take the soon to die aborted FETUS and pose with it for pictures, have it baptized and spend some quality time with their FETUS while it's life slowly expires.

Who'd want to miss out on something like that?

http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=67328

(Sorry if I ruined anyone’s lunch. Mine gets ruined everytime I'm presented with the issue.)

5 posted on 07/31/2009 8:47:24 AM PDT by End Times Sentinel (In Memory of my Dear Friend Henry Lee II)
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To: SuziQ

How much you wanta bet Obamacare would outlaw such care, or make the patients pay for it themselves.


6 posted on 07/31/2009 8:51:18 AM PDT by Mrs.Z
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“the parents of the child would not have the guilt...”

My cousin had her baby after the doctor told her the child would not live long, there was just to much wrong. After the child was born, she lived about 2 hours. They got to hold her, and they had a small funeral for her at church. A small stone with the child’s name was put up. She told her other 2 children who came later about their sister. While this is sad, she has moved on. Her doctor offered her the option of abortion. I have often wondered, while her story is sad, how much worse would it have been if she had aborted the child - and spent the rest of her life wondering? I think she would always have had the questions, and I believe she would have guilt. At least now she knows they gave their child all they could - a chance at life.-—JM


7 posted on 07/31/2009 8:52:28 AM PDT by Jubal Madison (Sic Semper Tyrannis)
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Exactly. I haven't heard it discussed for babies, but if they are openly talking about "end of life" counseling for seniors, you can see the direction this is going.

If they believe that you are carrying a child who will have disabilities and who will require a lot of expensive care -- perhaps for decades -- then you can bet that abortion will be prescribed so as to avoid adding a "useless eater" to the population.

And yeah: I think it will be like China, where the abortion is NOT optional.

8 posted on 07/31/2009 8:57:04 AM PDT by ClearCase_guy
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It’s not just aborting babies with defects — the medical community assumes that every woman experiencing a miscarriage or false pregnancy (empty sac or blighted ovum)immediately wants a D&C “just to get it over with.”

I was lucky to have a doctor who was on the same page when I went thru this. But when I let nature take its course, and had to go the emergency room because I was blacking out, every medical professional I encountered there assumed I was scheduled for, required or desired a D&C.

I would love to see hospices/birthing centers offer services to women who are going to miscarry an early pregnancy, because it can be quite an ordeal. I’m sure many women like me would prefer NOT to have their bodies defiled by an invasive procedure, but fear experiencing a miscarriage at home.

The medical community should give them another option.


9 posted on 07/31/2009 9:00:55 AM PDT by CMoran325
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To: rhema

Thanks so much for posting this.


10 posted on 07/31/2009 9:15:11 AM PDT by Lorianne
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To: Jubal Madison

We had friends who gave birth to a baby girl with some kind of syndrome. She lived seven days. On the day she died, our pastor asked us in church to leave and go up to the hospital for they were going to unhook her from life support. We got there in time to be with the parents while the baby was taken off life support and were taken into a darkened room with the family. We each held her, sang to her, praised the Lord for her, prayed for her. She died quietly without our even realizing it. It was an amazing experience and one that blessed her parents as well. I wouldn’t have missed it for the world.


11 posted on 07/31/2009 9:28:28 AM PDT by Marysecretary (GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL!)
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To: CMoran325

After NOT having a D&C after a miscarriage — simply because I was too young & uninformed to know that I needed one — I got pelvic peritonitis, was hopita;ized in intensive care and almost died. THe D & C is not necessaily sn sortion — after a miscarriage or a spontaneous abortion, it remove small fragments of tissue that remain inside and can become infected.


12 posted on 07/31/2009 9:30:10 AM PDT by kabumpo (Kabumpo)
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To: rhema
Thanks for honoring Dr.Anderson and his respect for life by posting this.

Thanks also to WORLD magazine.

Years ago, we had gone to Orlando for a small vacation weekend with the our children.

Unknown to us, a dear family in our congregation had been rushed there due to complications of birth.

Not knowing they were there, I felt a strong urgency for the baby, and during the night had recurring dreams about it...

In the morning I found out they were in a hospital close by.

We went to the hospital.....the baby had been born live, but lived only a few short hours.

I was encouraged by the parents to see the child as they lovingly held her, comforted her and prayed over her during her last breaths.

She was a beautiful little girl....

Respect for life separates us from the profane direction of Planned Parenthood, NARAL, etc.

How can anyone....anyone....choose to abort a living, breathing baby...

13 posted on 07/31/2009 9:30:54 AM PDT by Guenevere
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The last I knew, “hospice” is another way of saying you’ll be kept comfortable, but not treated. Perhaps kind, compassionate people will not treat you. I know there are many times when treatment is futile, but we must guard against “hospice” being another euphemism for letting an unwanted baby die, while we do artificial things to make ourselves feel better.

My grandson was born last year with a birth defect that led all his nurses to tell us it was a pity the defect couldn’t have been discovered earlier so something “could have been done.” If he had been born prematurely, or aborted late, would they have urged us to put him in hospice? We think he’s perfect, but he will have more costly health care than the average person. Is there a connection?


14 posted on 07/31/2009 9:32:23 AM PDT by ntnychik
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My grandson was born last year with a birth defect that led all his nurses to tell us it was a pity the defect couldn’t have been discovered earlier so something “could have been done.”

One of those things people say that makes you dearly wish later that you had confronted them. "What exactly 'could have been done'?"
15 posted on 07/31/2009 9:55:47 AM PDT by TalonDJ
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To: rhema

Thanks for posting.

My daughter was pestered constantly during her last pregnancy to have ‘testing’ for her unborn child. BTW We called the little person “Dot” at the time, as that is how the baby appeared in the sonograms.

Anyway, she went full term and now has a great little boy.

She told me about being pestered about the testing, and then said “Dad, I could never have an abortion, no matter what”. She knew she would the full support of her family, no matter what...

thanks again


16 posted on 07/31/2009 10:18:51 AM PDT by ASOC (Cave quid dicis, quando, et cui)
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Ping!


17 posted on 07/31/2009 10:19:11 AM PDT by Mr. Silverback (We're definitely in the Rise of the Empire era, but is Obama Valorum or Palpatine?)
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To: Guenevere; Suzie-Q; All
Every life is a part of God's plan. Meet Mrs. LV!



Born three months early she weighed in at a whopping 2 lbs and 2 ozs. She spent the next three months in an incubator at the Army hospital at Fort Benning Georgia in 1952. Mom, daughter and her paratrooper dad got back to Texas as soon as they could. I cannot imagine a world without her in it. She is the light and love of my life. There are challenges but every day is new one for which we are grateful. She's currently transitioning from forearm crutches to a wheel chair. We've been married now for just over 33 years and have one 22 year old son. The docs call it cerebral palsy but we just call her unique. Right now she's in our home office typing away on her Mac G5 preparing graphics and text for the next edition of our monthly Real Estate magazine. Lord willing, we'll get thru these tough real estate-related economic times together. I took this photo of her just outside Taos NM on vacation a few years back.
18 posted on 07/31/2009 10:19:17 AM PDT by Liberty Valance (Keep a simple manner for a happy life :o)
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http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=67328

Unbelievable. Baptising an aborted baby as it is dying? Astonishing blasphemy and evil.

19 posted on 07/31/2009 10:19:18 AM PDT by Albion Wilde ("Media: quit making things up." --Sarah Palin)
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To: Marysecretary

A beautiful, beautiful story. Thank you for posting it.


20 posted on 07/31/2009 10:21:53 AM PDT by Albion Wilde ("Media: quit making things up." --Sarah Palin)
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