“When the fairies are displeased with anybody, they are said to send their elves to pinch them. The ecclesiastics, when they are displeased with any civil state, make also their elves, that is, superstitious, enchanted subjects, to pinch their princes, by preaching sedition; or one prince, enchanted with promises, to pinch another.”
(Thomas Hobbes. Leviathan, 1651.)
Too few warriors left in the bunch of feminized narcissistic text messaging pukes that call themselves men these days....
Here in the “south” we still have men who are real men. I see daily evidence of men opening doors, lifting heavy stuff to help someone, and a lot of other gentlemanly conduct. I guess that is because they know that “southern” ladies still expect it and love them for it.
Amen. My son is quite comfortable in his own skin and does the small things right — he gets the door for a lady, he is kind, courteous and considerate to the fairer sex — and he’s so good at it, he’s getting to the point where he’s going to have to beat the teenage girls away with a stick :)
Not all women mind being treated well. The young man who understands that his role is to be a gentleman will still go far in today’s world.
I could get on a huge soapbox here. John Eldredge wrote a few books on this topic, I encourage anyone with male children read some of his books.
Have you noticed the boys are all wearing skorts these days?
I am a Scout Leader, I have been a scout since 1964 and an Eagle Scout since 1970, and I am honored to be associated with real men of all ages.
Algore lived the pampered life, and yet it was a Wolf woman that he hired to teach him how to appear as an Alpha male. And there is nothing new about this just read the story of Deborah in the book of Judges.
The author neglects to mention the proliferation of behavior modifying drugs (Ritalin, Prozac, etc.)which are being prescribed overwhelmingly to young boys. This also contributes to the “wussification” of our youth.
While I am still hopeful that there will be good men left for them to marry, I realize the search might be difficult. My girls have been raised to apply the "gold standard" and to not settle for less than being treated the way their Dad treats me (and them).
I teach in an all boys school in Australia, which means we have the luxury of trying to teach them to come out right.
One of the school's explicit aims is to create 'gentlemen' and 'gentle men', with the emphasis on 'men'. Avoiding the idea that creating men who care about other people, means turning them into wimps.
We use Kipling's If.. as our template of what a man is.
If men are so disposable, why cant women seem to raise sons alone? Why are so many young men from single women households or homes where men come and go for the night, such a problem for society once they become teens and young adults? Its because women cant do it alone, they cant be a father figure and society is being crippled by it.
Honor was last because it meant the most.
Take a look at the latest tv commercial attack on white men. The McDonalds commercial where some pimp-looking white guy is the semi slave boy for a hulking black athelete, providing the bag of McDonald’s food at the demand of the black guy and never even realizing how bad it makes him look.
This is the poem I give boys when I find myself forced to follow her advice.
Addams Family Values:
Amanda: Is that your bathing suit?
Wednesday: Is that your overbite?
Gary: Now, one of you will be the drowning victim and the other one gets to be our lifesaver.
Amanda: I’ll be the victim!
Wednesday: All your life.
You know, feminists can have their say, and in some arenas they dominate... but I have this theory that if you raise a boy to be a wise, strong, ethical, masculine man, he will never have a problem finding a mate.
Oh, yes indeed.
One of mine was hounded out of a class in the Criminal Justice course entitled Women and Domestic Violence (or something to that effect).
He was the only male in the class and took an inordinate amount of verbal abuse from the girls and women, and the female instructor.
One girl turned in her seat and hit him on the chest.
He dropped the class and changed degree programs.
Yes, he complained but was told he was a big guy (6’ 3”) so too bad about it.
Ensuring boys do not become more emasculated deserves an entire column in itself. Some ideas:
Throw away your son’s iPod, X-Box, video games, etc.; or ban them except for limited times on weekends, and never during the day in summer.
Get them involved in hard work outdoors — building fences, trail-clearing work (if teenagers), car maintenance, painting outdoors, etc. Boys WANT to be real guys but they need examples from their Dads or other trusted men.
Boy Scouts is great. But most boys outgrow it by 15, totally by 16. So try the local Civil Air Patrol squadron or the local Coast Guard Auxiliary. Both a quasi-military but there will be no shortage of decent men serving as role models, and the boys will get their hands dirty and be doing real work.
Talk to them about the differences between boys and girls and teach them to honor and respect women, first their Mom and sisters, then all others. Tell them to ignore what they hear in school, and on the Disney Channel.
Take them out off-road on ATVs or to the local indoor shooting or skeet range. Nothing makes a 12-15 year old feel “like a man” than when his Dad does such with him
Quote:
The normal range of testosterone is reported as 350- 1200ng/dl. Studies in the 1940’s showed the average testosterone level to be at 700 ng/dl, 300 ng/dl higher than for men today. In the past, a drop in testosterone levels to 250 ng/dl was rarely reported before men were 80 years of age. Yet today, it is not an uncommon value for middle aged men!