Not disputing anything you wrote, but the bottom line is that I don’t fault the nurse for doing the examination.
If she would have discovered and reported abuse, a lot of people here would be giving her kudos....especially on threads dealing with the perp.
That type of exam based solely on a kid having urination issue. I would fault her. I have a grandkid with bladder issues and the kid has good parents. There were better established ways to handle it. It was her job to report abuse if she suspected it. It was not her job to do the exam. There are ones who specialize in this and even they are careful as to if and when.
Also in such cases the child is usually talked to by those who are trained to ask the child questions. One last thing. Does it not seem weird to you in the least a nurse taking a kid to THE BATHROOM to examine her? Those who examine also usually have a witness with them too. Kids are all too often not molested by strangers but rather those they know and trust yes including school employee's.
I have no use whatsoever for perps. I have personally had to testify in court against such and a perps enabler who enabled two perps to act against one child at different times. The perps weren't treated half as bad as I was on stand. Nor in Tennessee are perps treated half as bad in court as what even the states on lawyers do to the LCSW's or others who trying and help the kids deal with it.
I totally fault her and if she’d have found something, I’d still fault her. I do NOT want any old person who wants to to make my child open her privates for inspection. No way.
There are ways to do this and this is not the way.