Posted on 03/05/2010 8:39:23 PM PST by Neil E. Wright
By Sam Hananel
March 5, 2010
John Pilkington's boss wouldn't take no for an answer.
During more than two years as a food runner at an upscale steakhouse in Scottsdale, Arizona, Pilkington says his male supervisor groped, fondled and otherwise sexually harassed him more than a dozen times.
"It was very embarrassing,'' Pilkington said. "I felt like I had to do something because the situation was just so bad.''
Now Pilkington, a married father of two, is the star witness in a U.S. federal lawsuit against Fleming's Prime Steakhouse & Wine Bar and one of a growing number of American men claiming they are victims of sexual harassment in the workplace.
From 1990 to 2009, the percentage of sexual harassment claims filed by men has doubled from 8 percent to 16 percent, according to the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.
Lawyers at the commission say they've noticed the increase in complaints by men -- more than 2,000 were filed in 2009 out of about 12,700 cases.
"It's certainly possible that there's more sexual harassment of men going on, but it could just be that more men are coming forward and complaining about it,'' said Ernest Haffner, an attorney in the commission's Office of Legal Counsel.
While some cases allege harassment by female supervisors or co-workers, most charges involve men harassing other men. Sometimes it's unwelcome romantic advances. Other times, men are picked on because they are gay, perceived as being gay or not considered masculine enough for the work setting.
In the past, some employers might have shrugged off such antics as "boys will be boys'' horseplay or fraternity-type behavior. But the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission has been filing more lawsuits involving male victims, saying it wants to send a message that such behavior is unacceptable and unlawful.
In November, for example, the Cheesecake Factory restaurant chain agreed to pay $345,000 to six male employees who claimed they were repeatedly sexually assaulted by a group of male kitchen staffers at a Phoenix-area restaurant.
The commission said the abusers would drag some victims kicking and screaming into a walk-in refrigerator, touching and grinding against the victims' genitals and take turns simulating rape. The company denied the allegations but agreed to make a financial settlement and educate its employees and managers about sexual harassment.
Susan Strauss, a consultant who advises companies about how to avoid sexual harassment in the workplace, said she's seeing more cases in which men are subject to a sexualized form of hazing.
"If you don't fit the masculine stereotype or are viewed as effeminate, you get picked on in a sexual way to demean you,'' Strauss said.
Cases involving women making unwanted advances toward men may also be rising as women make up a growing part of the work force. Last year, the Regal Entertainment Group, which operates a national chain of movie theaters, agreed to pay $175,000 to settle a lawsuit by a male employee who claimed a female co-worker repeatedly grabbed his crotch at work.
When the employee complained to his supervisor and the theater's then-general manager, he claims, she failed to stop the harassment and instead retaliated with unfair discipline and lower performance evaluations.
The number of cases filed by men has grown steadily since a landmark Supreme Court ruling in 1998 held that same-sex harassment is a valid claim under federal anti-discrimination laws. That ruling involved an offshore oil rig worker who said he was subject to humiliating sex-related treatment by other workers, including being sodomized in the shower with a bar of soap.
In Pilkington's case, he claims the restaurant's chef would grope and pinch his genitals or grab his backside when Pilkington walked to the kitchen or stock room. Despite his complaints to the restaurant's operating partner, he says the conduct didn't stop.
After one incident, Pilkington lost his composure and yelled at the chef. Days later, he was fired -- an action he claims was retaliation for his complaints. An Equal Employment Opportunity Commission lawsuit on behalf of Pilkington and three other current and former employees is pending.
"I think maybe it's just harder for males to come out and file a complaint because of how embarrassing it is,'' Pilkington said. "When I talk about it I get this nauseous feeling in my stomach.''
The restaurant has denied the charges. In a statement, the company that owns Fleming's said the restaurant "has always been committed to providing a safe and healthy workplace free of harassment for all of its associates.''
Many victims are hesitant to come forward because they are afraid of being considered unmanly or being derided by co-workers, said Mary Jo O'Neill, a regional attorney in the EEOC's Phoenix District office.
"All sexual harassment victims feel humiliated, lacking control and power,'' O'Neill said. "This has a different twist because everyone expects that they would be able to handle it and take care of it themselves.''
Queer sons of government-corporate big shots were propositioning men in shops during the late ‘70s and early ‘80s—conveyor construction, pipeline valve companies...all kinds. Men who were straight and refused to play with them were fired one after another. The boards and managers of those companies were behind queer supervisors, so to speak (their sons, nephews, all). In most cases, attempts to sue will be unsuccessful, as they’re related to the lawyers, too.
Our leadership has been degenerating for a long time. Business families are also full of socially perverted government employees. Corporate-government interests get what they want, until their game plays out. Help them to finish it. Cheer on the big government spending! Avoid unnecessary personal expenditures in order to deprive them of revenues. Become more self-sufficient. Develop a hobby at making useful things—like indexing gears, for example. Be nonpolitical. Give the special interests of the current paradigm a little nudge in the direction that they’re already going (off the edge).
Fatten the beast with its debts, then starve it. Rebuild. That’s the only way, IMO.
FREEDOM!
Makes me want a Butte Dechutes.
Chocolate Ale...
Your Mc Gals are pretty too.
However being a woman with a taste for Ale I will give you all yer pretty gals and take the suds for me self mate. : )
Pork Belly and Grits on the side. : )
Offensive? I thought he was ‘Catholic’.
I’ll take them grits but if left to my druthers there better be a whole lot of gravy. :^)
KV wants to know if the blonde gal is taking texts fer possible future raising jugs of Ale dates.
He has noticed she in all her shining eyes is frequenting our St. Patty March threads.
I was just giving Neil a shot of his own medicine.
And rightfully so should be deleted but so should Neil.
He seems to be confused about civility/decency and the ability to speak Freely.
Too Bad the Mods have sunk so Low to accomadate a worm such a Neil on Jim Robinsons Forum.
And if you want to try to carry out your threat in reply #40, be advised, that I'll be glad to send you directions to my place. But, if you decide to follow through on your threat, I WILL SHOOT YOU.
Have a nice weekend.
FREEDOM!
You are an angry human.
Seek Help.
But I take threats to my physical well being seriously, so consider that in Arizona, where we still believe in FREEDOM, I can legally respond to such threats in an appropriate manner.
You may feel free to ignore my posts if you so desire, but if you threaten me again, I'll respond appropriately.
FREEDOM!
Again I repeat.
You are an angry person.
Seek help.
FREEDOM!
I think Neil is obvious about his sexuality.
He screams in bold his fear and angst.
Reminds me of insecure fatherless black men who feel the need to in public check to see if there goods are intact.
Why are you being so hard on Neil? He obviously doesn’t care for homos, neither do I, neither does JR, and neither should you.
Have a nice weekend.
FREEDOM!
Aw but I think Neil does care.
I think he lives in fear and anger.
Phobic.
I have such a fear of esculators.
I rarely use them prefer elevators.
And elevators are more WC friendly. :)
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