Obviously your reading skills are lacking today. From my post #5:
"I think she handled it poorly but she was 17 at the time."
I comprehended what you said; don't comprehend WHY you said it.
How would any "normal" 17 YO handle it any differently? Obviously she was quite tramatized by the entire thing...probably more than many 17 YO kids would be today.
I got the impression that her parents might have been over-protective of her---which is understandable, also. But not letting her go to his funeral?...seems to have added to the guilt in later years.
IIRC, she had dated or was dating him. He was not a stranger to her but a friend.