The bottom line is different people interpret experiences and events differently. I know many who look at the Holocaust as a loss of civil rights for minority groups (Jews, Gays, Gypsies, and people with different political beliefs). Therefore they are reluctant to vote for a candidate who they believe will restrict rights they believe people are entitled to. Of course different people have different ideas about what those rights are.
I do think that fewer Jews will vote for Obama in 2012 than in 2008, but I have no idea if that means just staying home. What I am sure about is that voting Democrat had nothing to do with being self-hating or actively participating in their own persecution.
They are taught to view it that way. Just like they are taught that Nazis were nationalist, instead of the anti-nationalists that they were.
Your particular situation is why I said “for the most” part at least two or three times in my comment. Unfortunately, there aren’t enough of the “YOUs” in this country. Take a look at this:
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-bloggers/2742659/posts
My guess is that still a supermajority of Jews in this country will go through some self-hating gymnastics to explaining why Obama and the State Depart doing this is a good thing....it is just mind boggling.