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How I helped my mother starve to death: retired New York Times reporter pens book
LifeSiteNews ^ | 8/23/11 | Jeremy Kryn and John Jalsevac

Posted on 08/23/2011 3:51:54 PM PDT by wagglebee


Julia Gross with her mother Estelle.

LONDON, UNITED KINGDOM, August 22, 2011 (LifeSiteNews.com) – A recently retired New York Times reporter has penned a book in which she details how she followed through on a shocking pact to help her 88-year-old mother, Estelle, starve to death.

In an excerpt from the book, “A Bittersweet Season,” published recently in the Daily Mail, Jane Gross describes her mother’s increasing dissatisfaction with life as her health deteriorated, and her mounting desire to die, despite the fact that she was not terminally ill.

“So here we were, my mother and I, wishing that she were terminally ill and feeling a bit creepy about it,” Gross writes about her conversations with her mother about her death wish.

Gross admits that there “was no pretending I hadn’t been part of her decision [to die], and had arguably even encouraged it,” but argues that she made sure that her mother, with whom she had never been particularly close, was “doing this for herself,” and not out of a desire to spare her children “trouble and expense.”

Finally, after her mother spelled out the words “N-O-W,” Gross met with staff at the hospice where her mother was being cared for, and thus began the lengthy and grueling process of her mother’s death by starvation and dehydration – a process that staff had told Gross would only last a week, but that actually lasted 13 days.

“As the days passed, I watched the hands of the clock from my perch in a corner of my mother’s room,” she writes. “They seemed to have stopped moving. She soon became a curiosity, as staff stood in her doorway to watch the old lady who would not die. I accused staff of sneaking her ice cubes when my back was turned. I was twitching with impatience. I wanted my mother to hurry up and die, and was ashamed to admit it.”

Finally, Gross writes, “On the 13th day without food or water, my mother finally got her wish.”

In an interview with LifeSiteNews (LSN), Alex Schadenberg, the executive director of the Euthanasia Prevention Coalition, expressed his sorrow at Gross’ account, saying, “Sadly, the concept of dehydrating and starving a person death, whether it is done in a voluntary way or not, is becoming more common.”

“This sad article about the death of Estelle, is held up as an example of fulfilling the last request or ensuring that a person’s autonomy has been maintained,” he said. “The fact is that Estelle was abandoned in her death.”

“We need to make it clear that dehydrating people to death, who are not otherwise dying, is not only an abuse of good care, but also euthanasia by dehydration,” Schadenberg said. “The acceptance of euthanasia by dehydration leads to the acceptance of killing the most vulnerable in society. This abuse of the vulnerable cannot continue.”

Schadenberg said that Compassion & Choices, the group that lobbies for the legalization of assisted suicide in the U.S., recently published an article extolling the virtues of death by dehydration.

“The suicide lobby is using death by dehydration to break down the resistance to assisted suicide,” he said. “It is well known that once people have experienced someone dying by dehydration that, out of compassion for the dying, they will demand death by lethal dose.”


TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events; United Kingdom
KEYWORDS: dehydration; euthanasia; janegross; medicide; moralabsolutes; obamacare; prolife; terrischiavo
“The suicide lobby is using death by dehydration to break down the resistance to assisted suicide,” he said. “It is well known that once people have experienced someone dying by dehydration that, out of compassion for the dying, they will demand death by lethal dose.”

Exactly, they want to make it as horrific as possible so the public demands euthanasia.

1 posted on 08/23/2011 3:51:57 PM PDT by wagglebee
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2 posted on 08/23/2011 3:53:32 PM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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To: wagglebee

Remembering the court ordered murder of Terri.


3 posted on 08/23/2011 3:54:30 PM PDT by bgill (just getting tagline ready for 6 months after you vote in Perry - Tried to warn you he's a RINO.)
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4 posted on 08/23/2011 3:54:30 PM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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5 posted on 08/23/2011 3:55:20 PM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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To: wagglebee

There are suicide web sites out there.

You can buy helium and a plastic bag.

Rather than put her mother through this she could have done helium.

Mother would be just as murdered.


6 posted on 08/23/2011 3:57:23 PM PDT by TASMANIANRED (We kneel to no prince but the Prince of Peace)
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To: wagglebee

Throw NYSlimes reporter in jail for murder


7 posted on 08/23/2011 3:58:24 PM PDT by SandRat (Duty - Honor - Country! What else needs said?)
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To: wagglebee

bfl


8 posted on 08/23/2011 4:00:18 PM PDT by BykrBayb (Somewhere, my flower is there. ~ Þ)
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To: wagglebee

Sitting there and watching her own depressed mother starve to death. We used to call this parricide. I do not know what to name it today? Perhaps “nameless horror?”


9 posted on 08/23/2011 4:03:47 PM PDT by AEMILIUS PAULUS (It is a shame that when these people give a riot)
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To: wagglebee

This woman should be sitting in a prison cell for murder.


10 posted on 08/23/2011 4:09:01 PM PDT by freekitty (Give me back my conservative vote; then find me a real conservative to vote for)
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To: wagglebee

Was Terri Schiavo not enough???

What makes THIS story even worse is that this “reporter” was so desperate to publish a book, she used her mother’s death.

Disgusting!!!


11 posted on 08/23/2011 4:37:38 PM PDT by DustyMoment (Go green - recycle Congress in 2012!!)
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To: wagglebee

If the mother decided this herself, it’s quite different than the daughter withholding food and water. Not quite the same as Terri Schiavo who had absolutely no control over what happened to her. I’m sorry the old lady was so depressed she wanted to die, but no one forced it on her.


12 posted on 08/23/2011 4:39:00 PM PDT by SuziQ
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Right, that’s a right she has. Just don’t involve the medical profession.


13 posted on 08/23/2011 4:44:02 PM PDT by Balding_Eagle
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To: wagglebee

This woman thinks she did her mother a favor. I think she was worried about the cost of her future care. Sick, sick people.


14 posted on 08/23/2011 4:44:53 PM PDT by NoExpectations
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To: wagglebee
I'm guessing a lot of elderly people whose kids told them they should just die and get out of the way - so as not to be a burden on them, would want to die.

What a cold blooded bit*th of a daughter.

Karmas gonna be a beech when it catches up.

15 posted on 08/23/2011 4:50:53 PM PDT by maine-iac7 (ALWAYS WATCH THE OTHER HAND)
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To: wagglebee
Evil

No other word for it and doesn't deserve any more words.

16 posted on 08/23/2011 4:52:03 PM PDT by csense
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To: wagglebee

Her efforts would have been better spent helping to make her mother’s life happier and worth living despite its infirmities.


17 posted on 08/23/2011 4:55:08 PM PDT by luvbach1 (Stop the destruction in 2012 or continue the decline)
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To: SuziQ

OMG!!! The Nazis would only DREAM of this!!


18 posted on 08/23/2011 4:58:48 PM PDT by Ann Archy (Abortion is the Human Sacrifice to the god of Convenience.)
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To: wagglebee

Freeper responses are encouraging on this. The general population may be morally confused but most people here are not. Encouraging.


19 posted on 08/23/2011 5:01:08 PM PDT by johniegrad
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To: wagglebee

“A Bittersweet Season,” published recently in the Daily Mail, Jane Gross describes her mother’s increasing dissatisfaction with life as her health deteriorated, and her mounting desire to die, despite the fact that she was not terminally ill.”

So what was she doing in hospice if she wasn’t terminal? How did she qualify for hospice care? I watched my M-I-L die of Parkinsons disease and she did not qualify for care in a facility until she stopped eating and drinking on her own and had refused to a feeding tube. Still, this was a tragic way to go. Why could they not give this woman drugs to ease her discomfort as opposed to dehydration?
So sad how we handle our elderly. Sounds like the author just wanted her out of the way. I hated to see my M-I-L leave us.


20 posted on 08/23/2011 5:06:23 PM PDT by marygam ((Hurry November 2012, we might not make it))
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To: wagglebee

No one recognizes evil any more, least of all in themselves.


21 posted on 08/23/2011 6:00:02 PM PDT by joe.fralick
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To: johniegrad

I am a Hospice nurse, and I see death nearly daily; I cannot think of more abhorrent end-of-life scenario than this one. It chills me....


22 posted on 08/23/2011 6:44:02 PM PDT by clee1 (We use 43 muscles to frown, 17 to smile, and 2 to pull a trigger. I'm lazy and I'm tired of smiling.)
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To: wagglebee

if she was not terminally ill, why was she being cared for at a hospice?

and how did she tap out “Now”? was she mentally competent?

and although a person dying of cancer is not required to stay on IV’s etc to keep them hydrated, how come they stopped giving fluid to this old lady, at the request of her daughter who admits to never being close to her mother?

this is murder, of course...


23 posted on 08/23/2011 6:52:21 PM PDT by LadyDoc
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To: wagglebee

Lord have mercy on this daughter’s soul.


24 posted on 08/23/2011 7:11:28 PM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: wagglebee

I would make a comment about her name, but I am just going to have all the Gross people angry with me.


25 posted on 08/23/2011 11:01:01 PM PDT by Berlin_Freeper
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To: All
Pinged from Terri Dailies


26 posted on 09/04/2011 10:38:48 AM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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"I wanted my mother to hurry up and die, and was ashamed to admit it.”

Finally, Gross writes, “On the 13th day without food or water, my mother I finally got her my wish.”

Fixed.


27 posted on 09/04/2011 3:16:26 PM PDT by cyn
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