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How many of our laws, policies, and “social programs” actually promote divorce instead of providing incentive for parents to stay married?

How about a legal system that works like this:

A man and woman get married and have kids. At at moment, the wife can pick up the phone and start the process of ruining her husbands life for decades. Police immediately come to the house, take the husband away in handcuffs, never to return. She no longer has to listen to anything he has to say - she can do as she pleases in complete disgregard of anything he might think or say. If she wants a "girl's night out", fine. If she wants to start having new boyfriends, fine. However she wants to raise the kids, fine. However much she wants to spend, fine. The list goes on.

Now, add to that, the husband will be forced to pay her money until her last child is over 18 - by payroll deduction. There is no place the man can hide in America and avoid that system. Every employer in the nation will honor the court order and deduct whatever the court orders from his pay. Oh, it's AFTER TAX money - ouch, sorry.

The man now must take what's left of his paycheck and rent or purchase - wow - A SECOND HOME ! Woo-hoo, I bet he thought he could not afford two homes while he was married. But now, with child support, guess what - he can. Right.

The disgruntled wife gets to have the entire U.S. law enforcement work on her behalf to extract a chunk of her husband's paycheck for herself. Oh, I mean the kids, sorry.

The judge - the sole aribiter of truth in family court - does not require proof of anything any more in most states. In NJ, for example, for every case that does not fit into one of three real reasons for divorce, the plaintiff simply has to come up with some story which then is categorized as "mental cruelty". This is merely a catch-all which - in reality - allows for divorce for absolutely any reason on God's green earth. Divorce on a whim. Don't worry, the plaintiff's attorney will "guide them through" the process and make sure the motions are filed such that there will be no issues when it comes before the judge. "He always scowls at me. I feel afraid. I had a hangnail and he did not show me any sympathy. I couldn't sleep for days." How about this one - "he is a workaholic". THAT'S FUNNY ! /sarc

I was once - seriously - offered a large amount of cash by a friend to move in with his ex-wife so he could get his payments to stop. Nooooo thank you. (there is a trifle of sanity left in the laws to make them pass as legitimate. The woman can't move in with a new boyfriend and keep getting the full amount). I guess the new boyfriend can stay over three nights a week, he just can't have his own closet. He has to keep a mailing address at his mother's house.

What a great system for promoting MARRIAGE and married couples STAYING TOGETHER.

Biblical wisdom can be found in 2 Cor 6:14
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

Notice it says “unbelievers”. This includes those who go to church, call themselves “Christian”, yet don’t place authority in the Word of God.

Still, it’s not a guarantee, but it IS “better odds”.

Nobody give me “the divorce rate among Christians is the same as for the general population”. See my careful definition of “unbeliever” above. Among “believers”, the rate is MUCH LOWER.

—Now, add to that, the husband will be forced to pay her money until her last child is over 18 - by payroll deduction—

Haha! That’s funny. You forgot to add college tuition into their 20’s.

That’s right. If you are married to the mother, the two of you can come to agreement (or not) and you can choose whether or not your child is college material, deserves it, etc. It’s your choice.

But if you are divorced, you don’t have the choice. She can take you to court and the court can REQUIRE you to pay for the child’s school AND continue paying child support to your ex for many years past 18.

Like I said before, if she is vindictive, your best option is to leave the country. No joke.

Don’t forget the restraining orders that the wifey’s get even though there is no history or proof of abuse. They get them cuz, of course, a guy can hurt a woman but da wittle woman is helpless and so must be protected...just in case what she’s saying is true.

Oh, get this, somehow my son’s ex’s lawyer just accidently filed a judgement against my son for ex-DIL’s legal fees although he wasn’t responsible for them. Even though he had had a credit check it didn’t come up until he was getting ready to buy a house. We found out that he would have lost his ability to challenge it if it had gone past 6 years. Thank God, he decided to buy a house. It had already been 5 years. But it was just a mistake, you know. Yeah, right.