All this talk about bullying.....I’m sick of it.
Not the bullying so much as the whining about it.
Look, let’s talk simple human nature. Bullies always have and always will be around. That is a simple fact.
I’ll save millions of people millions of beatings, insults, embarrassments, trips to the shrink, etc. here and now.
Here is all you have to know about bullies, people: They are cowards. This is 100% accurate, 100% of the time.
They...are...cowards.
Know how to stop them? Ridiculously simple. Stand up to them. Challenge them. Get in their faces. Like all cowards, they back down. Every time.
Trust me on this one. If you or your kids didn’t know this, you know it now. From now on, if you have issues with bullying in your life-circle, it’s your own damned fault.
Of course no bold deed (”OK you coward, if you try that again I promise I will cold cock you”) goes unpunished.
Well glad you cleared that up.
You should be a therapist. Better yet, an ambassador.
No - you should be a preacher. People need to hear you teach that all of that stuff about Jesus' compassion is misinterpretation. Jesus would never have been compassionate - there's simply no need. Jesus took nails in his hands to show us we need to stop whining. He hung on the cross, all blood and nailed up, and yelled out, "Hey, wimps, look at me. Am I whining? So shut up, I'm sick of all your weakness. Your weakness is your fault, and I'm not going to accept it anymore."
Yeah, preacher. You'd be great.
Juuuuuust great.
Because, like, you're so tough.
And everything.
There are different degrees of bulling. There might be one or two people who pick on another person now and then. But there is a type of bullying that involves a sizable group of people who feed off one another and they target one person. It’s incredibly cruel and destructive. It’s almost impossible to stop it because it’s a group against one person.
yes that is right. You have to bully a bully. that is what I told my kids
Utterly ridiculous and uninformed. While kids should certainly be taught to stand up for themselves, there is only so much that one person can do by him/herself. With absolutely no one who’s got your back in these situations, it can rarely get better without support. Many, if not most, victims are totally alone in their battle.
I agree that bullies are cowards, but they usually come in huge groups who single out their prey and can be totally ruthless to the point that the abused may even face physical attacks. When these groups of rabid hyenas go on the attack they turn the whole school against the one student to the point where everyone is afraid to help out the victim. It IS a real problem and no student should have to fear for their physical safety in a school. What can one student do against dozens of others if he/she has no support? Not much.
If it was just a matter of hurting someone’s feelings it wouldn’t be such a big deal, but it’s often much, much worse than that. These kids DO need someone to help them, to step in and stand with them in their struggle.
Yep. Unless they get all of their sycophants to gang up on you and do charming little things like getting everyone in your class to talk about a party to which everyone but you was invited whenever you're present. Unless they sneak in and steal your personal belongings, destroy them, and leave them hanging on a fence. Unless they threaten to follow you until they get you in a secluded place where they can freely beat the snot out of you.
Yep, standing up to them works every time. Except, that is, when it just encourages them to ratchet up the bullying. Bullies almost always have sycophants who follow their lead. Victims almost always are loners. Bullies need to be told by authorities that their behavior will not be tolerated, and victims need to be encouraged to report such behavior. And the behavior needs to be punished.
AMEN !
Sorry,.I cant agree with you. The bully problem makes life miserable for the kids that are bullied. The so called adults in the schools actuallt participate in it so they too can be cool by picking on the kids. The school administrators should be personally liable for civil damages when they fail to step in to stop it. Then it would stop. Bullying is a terrible terrible thing and you are very wrong to try and diminish the seriousness of the problem
“Know how to stop them? Ridiculously simple. Stand up to them. Challenge them. Get in their faces. Like all cowards, they back down. Every time.”
Doing so will get kids suspended or expelled from school these days.
“From now on, if you have issues with bullying in your life-circle, it’s your own damned fault.”
Must be nice to live in such a simple world.
I was terrified. I never experienced anything like this before. And I had not yet made any friends at school and felt completely alone and I didn’t know what to do. So I decided to ignore them and their threats.
But as soon as I left school to walk home, these two girls confronted me, along with just about all the other kids in the school who got wind of the fight. One of the girls pushed me into the other girl who then punched me in the arm and threw me to the ground.
I’m a little hazy about what happened next but I recall being very angry and getting up and swinging my book bag into one gal’s mid section, knocking her to the ground, and then swinging hard and landing a hard punch to the face of the other girl and giving her a bloody nose and fat lip. I do recall the gasps and then the cheers of the other kids, a lot whom had been bullied by these two. I’d never in my young life had ever been in a fight before and didn’t know I had it in me.
A teacher came along and broke up the fight, that I was winning and we all went to the principal’s office and our parents were called.
That night I explained to my parents, especially my dad about what had happened. My dad had experienced something similar when he started school as a newly arrived immigrant to America when he was bullied for “talking funny”.
My parents told me that regardless of what these girls said, that I should have gone to a teacher, but my father also told me that I was right to stand up and to defend myself and he was proud of me for doing so under the circumstances and when he met with the principal the next day, he said the same to her and I didn’t get suspended.
The next day one of the two girls, the one who punched me, came to me and said something to effect of “I respect you, you’re tough and I want to be your friend”. I told her “I don’t what to fight you, and I don’t what to be your enemy, but sorry, I don’t want to be your friend”.
But I made lots of other friends and neither of these two girls nor anyone else ever messed with me again. I actually ended up feeling sorry for the girl who punched me up and eventually became friends with her some years later during high school – she had a very bad home life, lot’s of horrible abuse and neglect; but she rose above all that and eventually pulled herself up and became a totally different person as she got older. Last I heard from her she had gotten a college degree and became a pharmacist¸ had gotten married and had a few kids. Last I heard the other girl was serving time in prison for various charges including assault and battery.
No they don't. I was small as a kid and had to learn to fight. I had to fight several times though jr high and high school.
I still unreservedly hate bullies.
Really? So, tell me, if you went to work tomorrow and a gang of people beat you up, berated you mercilessly about anything, and stole your money, would you just accept it? No, you’d call the cops. We expect kids to endure things that no adult would.
The problem is government schools and the forced association due to compulsory attendance. The society in schools resembles that seen in prisons, because schools are prisons. Get government out of education completely, then parents will have real options for their kids and schools will have an incentive to respond to their customers concerns. Also, let kids move along in school as they are able and graduate when ready. There is no reason to force bright kids to sit in dull classrooms for 12 years.
Schools are still operated as they were 100 years ago. If the same thing had happened in transportation, we would still be riding horses.
My solution has been to kill every single person I meet.