I've never regarded the (evidently) unimaginable burden of behaving civilly towards my host (or hostess), while a guest in their home, to be equivalent to operating under "a shadow," personally.
Just the funny ol' way I was raised, I s'pose.
59 posted on 07/16/2012 11:22:27 PM PDT by KentTrappedInLiberalSeattle
("If you're not fiscally AND socially conservative, you're not conservative!" - Jim Robinson, 9-1-10)