I made it clear to my son that if someone starts a fight, he can finish it and as far as I am concerned, he won’t get in trouble with me. He may get punished at school but told him that is better than not sticking up for himself. My wife doesn’t agree with that.
His last day of school, someone tried to pick a fight with him nd he decked the kid. He got suspended from the bus for a week. My wife was furious but I told her it was his right.
> Exactly. Today, you have too many boys being raised by women instead of being taught by their fathers how to defend themselves. And far too many mothers are total fools in this area.
I am a woman who raised 4 sons alone. I taught them what my parents taught my brothers: Do not start a fight, but hit back if someone hits you. My sons were not scrappers, but they were not picked on either.
One of my older brothers told me this story just recently. He is 76.
Every day, when he got off the school bus, two boys would chase him all the way home. They never caught him, and he would run into the house and lock the door.
Finally, my mother told him not to run, to stand up to the bullies. Next day, when my brother headed for our front door, my mother locked it. He turned around and had to fight back, and they never bothered him again.
Unlike a lot of women, I understand how important it is for a boy to establish where he is in the pecking order and not let himself be placed at the bottom. (Girls establish pecking order, as well, but it does not involve physical strength and bravery.) There are far too many women, especially among teachers, who try to squelch the healthy masculinity in boys.