I don’t understand what you are saying. My Grandfather was an Elder in his Church, he taught me that there are times when you don’t turn the other cheek.
Elaborate the details of such circumstances? Seems to me that pops might have taught you how to fight back when cornered, not bust your butt and leave you to figure out what to do. One is example and encouragement, the other is coercion.
And of course the point of the BULLY is to coerce... doesn’t seem very good example of the father to punish someone who gets hurt in a fight, even if they fought as they ought to. As if suffering in the fight wasn’t enough. That is the kind of smash mouth spirit I speak of. Jesus said take a sword, Jesus did not say I will punish you if you have to use it but get hurt anyhow.