Parents who lose a kid to cancer or because some drunk hit him/her while crossing the street deserve sympathy.Enormous sympathy.Parents who follow the typical welfare career path of today...one night stand..."hey,ma,just who *is* my Dad anyway?" and then find that kid dead after a fight,not so much.
As someone who tries to be a Christian, though not a very good one, I have to deal what Jesus taught about judging others. Judging others in the context of sitting on a jury, or figuring out if a potential babysitter has a violent history and such is a good thing. But judging in the sense of condemning somebody in your heart as not being worthy as a human being, and thinking the worst you can of them instead of hoping for the best for them is forbidden. Its hard to follow some times, and some times I may only follow this in a patronizing way. But it is what christians are called to do.