Posted on 08/18/2013 6:44:58 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
With their biological clocks ticking, time poor and cash rich 40-something singletons are turning to the internet to find their man.
But these broody women are not looking for a relationship - instead they are looking for someone to father their child. More and more people across the U.S and UK are opting for the so-called 'co-parenting’ relationships – biological parents who have an otherwise platonic relationship, but who both contribute to raising the child.
Emma Elms reports on the rise of the unconventional trend.
WANTED Male co-parent to father at least one child with an attractive, financially independent 42-year-old woman. Must be a fully involved co-parent happy to share emotional and financial responsibility. Pregnancy via IVF by January 2014.
Rachel Hope, 42, is a property developer from Los Angeles. She is attractive, successful…and wants to be pregnant by January 2014. After 18 months of searching for a potential baby father, she has signed up to a website giving her access to thousands of men across the world who, like her, aren’t looking for a relationship, but want a child with someone who’ll take their parenting role seriously. Instead of strings attached, there’s an umbilical cord. ‘I’m in serious talks with three men – one from India, one from Germany and a gay man from the US,’ says Rachel.
Melani, 42, a senior sales consultant from New York, has also joined Modamily.com. ‘Ideally, I’m looking for the whole package – love, man and a child – but I’m also 42 and, although I’m in great shape, my biological clock has almost finished ticking. I need to be as proactive as I can.’ Melani is looking for 50:50 involvement with a co-parent, providing equal emotional and financial commitment to the child.
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If you’ve ever listened to Dr. Laura, thank your stars and stripes that you have a low appeal to women. There are worse fates in this world than being perpetually single.
Gosh, what could go wrong?
Well, besides the strong possibility of completely maladjusted children...
I don’t think he’s referring to those who are single by circumstance. There are many, too many, people who pop kids and drop’em at daycare with nary any real interaction with them.
“I do not trust people who chose to not have children. They lack empathy.”
Ah... It couldn’t be that they have doubts about whether this dying country’s society is going to be rather inhospitable to people with traditional values now, would it? Or.. perhaps a health concern that casts doubts about their ability to effectively parent their children over the long haul? Every situation is different.
*CONCERNS about whether this...
No huggie, no kissie until I get wedding ring.
I've not listened to Dr Laura; what would I find out if I did?
She’s used to do broadcasting, but now she’s Sirrius.
“I do not trust people who chose to not have children. They lack empathy.”
Absolutely not true!
Some of us knew our limitations and chose not to have children that we could not cope with nor support financially. Many more should have given careful consideration to this question of bringing children into the world before they went along willy nilly and did it.
A prime example is my sister who had 6 kids outside of marriage. After the first one, I suggested she stop there and her exact words to me were, “I will have as many as I want just to spite all of you (family). Well, now she has them and it is not us who have been spited, but her. And she realizes it in spades but it is too late. I love them all dearly and would do anything for them but she has created untold hardship for herself and for them by not thinking beforehand. It is very responsible to not have children when you know you are not fit to have them and care for them.
So don’t lump us all in there with a blanket statement. You have no idea what anyone’s individual status is in such matters unless they specifically tell you.
Such a deal!
“Hey! I’ve chosen not to have children… though that’s because I’m unmarried.
While I’d like to get married, I’ve no illusions that the fairer sex is interested in me (I’m kinda an unaccomplished loser, in my own opinion; I’m out of a job, even though I have a degree; and I’m somewhat asocial)* and many [American] women in my age-group seem rather indoctrinated in the feminist movement.”
Same boat, different circumstances...I’m going on 25 years in my career, well traveled, nice house, just never good at talking to girls, nor have ever had good timing in that regard. I even saved up 100k for college funds for children, and then finally gave up, and cashed it out for another house. Now I’m too old to want to start a family, but I am “uncle” to many many kids from 1 to 25, and get to do all the trips, camping, math tutoring, mentoring, and all the other good stuff, without having to worry about losing half my salary.
Being self-absorbed and career-focused was so fun and freeing, when she was young and fresh.
But then, the clock ticked and tocked.
Eating stupid right out of the carton once again.
I believe are already being screwed over in such schemes.
I think they are called marriages.
If they have to advertise like that, maybe IVF is a bonus for the guy: doesn't have to get close enough to touch her, or more to the point, get touched by her, after chipping in all that money & "sharing".
If they have to advertise like that, maybe IVF is a bonus for the guy: doesn't have to get close enough to touch her, or more to the point, get touched by her, after chipping in all that money & "sharing".
Next up, women who never got pregnant, demanding the right to abort.
Yeah: LOL: My turkey baster don’t work that way.
You want the music you have to play in the band.
Regardless of feminist doctrine, the time to find a good man who will marry you, is in your early 20's. Be open to dating men five or more years older than you. Don't look for Prince Charming unless you yourself are royalty. Get married by 25, and have your kids before 30. (Dealing with teenagers in your 50's is hard, and I do not recommend it). If your career suffers, that's life. Set your priorities.
I realize that many women will wildly disagree with what I've said. Tough.
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