Quod ita sit.
It means “whatever needs to be changed to suit the situation, changed.”
Face it. Beyond possible knock-on consequences of a stranger butting in, you got forgiveness, not permission, in that incident.
There’s a reason why we don’t believe in “it takes a village.” How’d you view it if someone horned in on the way you raised your kids? Unless of course your view is something like “Damn ‘em, let ‘em get all the hard knocks they can and let ‘em learn their own way.” Which God is going to hold you plenty accountable for. He was not hooting when He said mothers and fathers should be honored... for all they do, to nurture and to chasten and to guide.
Anyhow, she didn’t excuse you before God. Two answers possible at the end: either guilt is on you or guilt is taken by Christ, who has at that point taken over your entire life. Nothing else is available.