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Parents ask: Should we wait for our son to come out or ask him ourselves if hes gay?
Washington Post ^ | 6/23/14 | Petrow

Posted on 06/24/2014 6:43:05 PM PDT by mgist

Dear Civilities: My husband and I have a tween son whom we can easily imagine, one day, telling us that he is gay. Or perhaps not; we don’t know his orientation yet, and either way is fine. We love him unconditionally and this is not an issue. My question is about how to handle that conversation if and when he chooses to start it. Or should we ask him? I don’t want to say the wrong thing, omit the right thing or suggest that something so important to him is not an issue for us. As a parent, what should we say and not say during this conversation? — Gina P.

A: Although you don’t know your son’s sexual orientation yet, I applaud your question about how to handle “the coming-out talk,” the goal of which is to make sure that he feels your love and support. Frankly, I wish every parent of every child thought along these same lines. Because the real question is: How do I raise a child who will know he’s loved, whether LGBT or straight, and who accepts all others regardless of their sexual identity?

So, the best thing you could do for your son will take place before the talk, and that’s to be matter-of-fact about being gay. Watch “Modern Family” together and talk positively about the characters. When you hear that yet another state has legalized same-sex marriage , chat about it over dinner and celebrate the news. In fact, the supper table can help convey your attitudes and perspectives on world news in general, which will reinforce your values to your son. Follow my parents’ “open-table policy” and show your son that you are welcoming of all good people.

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1 posted on 06/24/2014 6:43:06 PM PDT by mgist
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“My son hears voices and refuses to bathe or go near water. He harms himself and tortures small animals. Sometimes he talks about burning down our house. He giggles when he talks bout that. My question is simple: How do I tell him that I love him just the way he is and would never want him to break free of his mental illness?”


2 posted on 06/24/2014 6:46:01 PM PDT by ClearCase_guy ("Harvey Dent, can we trust him?" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HBsdV--kLoQ)
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To: mgist

A “tween” is defined as between ages 10-12 by the way.

I have a tween daughter and that is not a conversation I would have with her, unless I was a pedeophile.


3 posted on 06/24/2014 6:46:07 PM PDT by mgist (.)
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To: mgist

Just leave a cucumber on his night stand. If it is still there the next morning then he is normal.


4 posted on 06/24/2014 6:46:33 PM PDT by Deathtomarxists (obama has a stinky stick)
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To: ClearCase_guy

Emrace your killer insticts son. If it feels good do it Jeffrey Dahmer.


5 posted on 06/24/2014 6:47:11 PM PDT by mgist (.)
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To: mgist

If he doesn’t come out soon, kick his ass and make him come out. Tell him he’s gay! Convince him of it! You Munchausen’s infested idiots!


6 posted on 06/24/2014 6:47:16 PM PDT by FlingWingFlyer (Feed the wacko enrviromentalists to the starving polar bears.)
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To: mgist

Check is browser history. that’ll tell you all you need to know.


7 posted on 06/24/2014 6:48:43 PM PDT by IllumiNaughtyByNature ($1.84 - The price of a gallon of gas on Jan. 20th, 2009.)
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To: mgist

I always wondered, what if my son is a Democrat? Where would he live after I disowned him? How would I explain it to my friends?


8 posted on 06/24/2014 6:50:16 PM PDT by GrandJediMasterYoda (Hitlery: Incarnation of evil.)
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To: FlingWingFlyer

That seems to be the way it is done these days


9 posted on 06/24/2014 6:51:18 PM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: mgist
The real question is how do I raise a child that will be straight and not gay?

I have a theory that most gays are introduced to it at an early age. Often by a friend or relative. The natural emotional/physical response that is intended to reinforce a marriage gets pointed instead at same sex attraction.

So here's my thoughts:


10 posted on 06/24/2014 6:53:16 PM PDT by DannyTN
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To: GrandJediMasterYoda

Same, mine thinks he is a Libertarian. I beat him about the head and face when he gets home from his 50 hour a week summer job!!!
Pahleeze!


11 posted on 06/24/2014 6:53:46 PM PDT by acapesket
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To: mgist

A tween doesn’t know what he (or she) is. It isn’t anything a child this age shouldn’t even be thinking about.
This ‘advice’ columnist should be shot.


12 posted on 06/24/2014 6:54:15 PM PDT by Wiser now (Socialism does not eliminate poverty, it guarantees it.)
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To: mgist

Sure ask him. Who cares nowadays?


13 posted on 06/24/2014 7:01:29 PM PDT by A Navy Vet (An Oath is Forever)
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To: mgist

Sure ask him. Who cares nowadays?


14 posted on 06/24/2014 7:02:13 PM PDT by A Navy Vet (An Oath is Forever)
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To: Wiser now

I knew unconditionally at about age five that girls
were magnificent. Hands downs, no debate. Fifty
years later and nothing has changed.


15 posted on 06/24/2014 7:04:58 PM PDT by huckfillary
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To: mgist

I just threw up.


16 posted on 06/24/2014 7:05:07 PM PDT by certrtwngnut
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To: mgist

They shouldn’t ask their son if he is gay. They should demand he be gay, so they can show their neighbors know how tolerant they are. I hear a lot of people saying they hope their child is gay now.


17 posted on 06/24/2014 7:07:22 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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show your son that you are welcoming of all good people

I guess that leaves out conservatives, tea party groups,those who believe in the 2nd amendment, many religious people, etc. The "good people" would be democrats, liberals, gays, anti-religious, etc. /s

18 posted on 06/24/2014 7:11:22 PM PDT by teacherwoes (Alethephobia-fear of hearing the truth)
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Dear Mr. and Mrs. Liberal: Feel free to give this poster to your son. you're gay photo: youre gay eestrada.jpg Professor tumblindice, Phd.
19 posted on 06/24/2014 7:13:31 PM PDT by tumblindice (America's founding fathers: all armed conservatives)
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To: DannyTN

I agree. Famed singer Ricky Martin had the producer that was murdered by his sons.

Because of the trauma they have sufferred, they deserve compassion. I was blessed not to have been assualted by a homosexual as a child. I treat everyone with love.

There but for the grace of God go I.


20 posted on 06/24/2014 7:15:45 PM PDT by mgist (.)
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