I think Dr. Carson was at least partially right. The wife of the mayor of New York is a case in point.
There might be a predisposition to “gayness”, but activating that is still a matter of consciously-chosen action.
Go pick out a thousand guys/gals who will be shipped off to a state or federal prison and confirm as they enter the facility that they are straight. A year later....five years later...ask them as they exit if they had a same-sex situation with someone while in prison. The odds are better than fifty percent. This should lead to a smart guy asking what happened next after release? Did they flip back to straight....go bi....or stay gay?
I’m pretty sure that Sixty Minutes would prefer not to engage in this type of journalism. It might shock a lot of people on the answers given.
I think, to address the title’s question,
we have to have a strict definition of “being gay”.
For one man to convince another man to get in bed naked with him isn't just one little choice along the way but thousands of choices. It requires years of committed study and practice to become an actual homosexual.
If all our predisposition were not only legalized but celebrated we’d have bank robbers pride parades, liars pride parades, rapists pride parades, slackers pride parades... we wouldn’t have enough days in the calendar to accommodate them all.