I tell you something weird. I was in Miami Beach a few weeks ago, well there was a queer event at my hotel, they basically took over the pool area on a Saturday and it was closed to hotel goers unless paid some money, it was little event on the Centiennal celebration of Miami Beach, no big deal. It rained most of the day so haha. But what was strange was all these guys looked like bodybuilder convention. Ripped, muscled dudes in little shorts. There were typical scrawny dandies in little shorts and T-shirts with small stringy backpacks, but I never knew bodybuilding was part of the deviant culture, some guys were huge. Of course they talked with feminine voice. So all those muscle magazines and fitness mags with half nude guys...uh yeah..
That’s pretty simple. In the dominant gay culture, looks are pretty much all that matters. I know from sad experience.