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To: JoeFromSidney

Good advice....::Idid not choose wisely....


5 posted on 11/23/2019 2:09:58 PM PST by TnTnTn
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To: TnTnTn
In Việt Nam outside of the big cities, marriage is still basically a contract between families. Love matches are there are but they are much less likely to last than the family deals. In arranged marriages both parties enter as a duty and learn get used to each other and while there is no first flush of romantic love there is no fading of such either, no disappointment. Divorce is easy in Việt Nam but, again outside of the big cities, fairly rare. The cities have large numbers of youth who get married without consulting their families who are far away. It is for Love or for Convenience with no thought to the duties and requirements of real marriage and these marriages are much more apt to end in divorce.

In traditional marriages wives have dowries, usually for the non-wealthy in gold bracelets and neck chains that are theirs and should the husband dump the wife she has some resources. My own marriage was not a love match and has fared quite well.

My buddy's ̣(in VN) eldest son got married in September to a lass from a very poor family. Thương's mother was upset because there was concerned for Nhi, the bride, because there was no dowry. Ultimately I was induced to provide that. I wish I had got pictures of her with the gold on her.It also meant that I was broke for my last ten days there.

9 posted on 11/23/2019 2:48:16 PM PST by ThanhPhero
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