[rmh47]

No one forces anyone to be a father. Men should keep their pants tucked in if they want to avoid this problem. Choose your wife wisely, sir.

Let's see if I understand you correctly. If a man behaves irresposibly, it's his fault. If his wife behaves irresponsibly, it's still his fault because he didn't choose her wisely enough. Is any part of this her responsiblity? Or am I missing something?

[mlmr]

Let's see if I understand you correctly. If a man behaves irresposibly, it's his fault. If his wife behaves irresponsibly, it's still his fault because he didn't choose her wisely enough. Is any part of this her responsiblity? Or am I missing something?

No silly. If a man behaves irresponsibly it is his responsibility. If his wife behaves irreponsibly it is her responsibility. Often men and women are blinded by emotional or sexual feelings and do not choose well and they have a responsibility for their choice.

[Mr. Silverback]

If his wife behaves irresponsibly, it's still his fault because he didn't choose her wisely enough. Is any part of this her responsiblity? Or am I missing something?

Apparently you are. Recommending that someone choose their mate for life with due care does not equal alleging that they have responsibility for that mate's moral failures.

Let me give you an example: If I said to a hiker, "Be careful of bears on the trail," am I blaming him for any mauling he might receive? No, I am warning him to exercise due care in an activity that is mostly safe, but can hold grave dangers. Proverbs 17:12 says, "Better to meet a bear robbed of her cubs than a fool in his folly." Was Solomon blaming his readers for the conduct of fools, or giving fair warning?