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It is a charged issue without a doubt and everyone who has had any experience with it is going to have a strong reaction. Actually, that situation you described could work the other way as well. Hear me out. This is a situation I was very close to. The girl gets pregnant. The boy is a complete loser and troublemaker. Girl dumps boy. Gets new boyfriend. New boyfriend is a good guy. They want to get married. He wants to be the baby's dad. He is willing to make that commitment. If they marry before the baby is born, the law protects him as the rightful father by his simple declaration of paternity. They don't get married though, until after the baby is born. He still files a declaration of paternity and gives the baby his name. A few months later, useless sperm donor shows up and wants to make trouble. He has no real desire to be a part of the child's life or to support the child. It is more like, "if I can't be in control, neither can you." Baby gets caught in the middle and it's a real mess.

Okay, I realize that perhaps that's the exception, but I throw it out there just to point out that these issues are rarely ever black and white.

I have no objections to anyone that wants to take on that role without fraud. But the Adam Henry (AH for the radio challenged) is still the father.

Adoption is the proper route for a non father to gain parental rights. I know a guy whose wife was really trying to get him to adopt her kids, right prior to their divorce. So a guy has got to be really careful on these issues.

The other ways are just to easy to use for fraudelent purposes.

DK

You know that jerks like that make threads like this hard to discuss rationally!!!