Singles confess shocking 1st date behavior

match.com ^ | Monday, August 25, 2003 | Margot Carmichael Lester

[GovernmentShrinker]

I really don't think that "becoming emotionally invested", prematurely or otherwise, is much of an issue for people who are hopping into bed with a series of people they just met. Any more than a tomcat beomes "emotionally invested" in the female cat down the block that he screws once because she happened to be in heat. For a lot of people, sex is just sex, and nothing more.

[SAMWolf]

A whore will sleep with anybody on the first date.

A b*tch will sleep with anybody on the first date, except you.

[gcruse]

we've been out 10 times and I haven't gone for a kiss goodnight yet.

Uhmmm.  That isn't being a gentleman.  That's fear of intimacy.

[squidly]

Yeah, the 3rd date has been considered the "sex date" for a while now, but if this poll is any indication we're moving nearer the front-end of the courtship cycle....

Less buck for the bang, as it were.

If the trend continues, will we not even have to go through the first date, but just go straight to the sex? I think that's called the spring break strategy.

[tet68]

What is Cliterati?

Sort of like a Maserati but more pink and glistening.

[Radioactive]

What is Cliterati?

It is sort of an Italian sports car with mud flaps!

Once you drive one it feels so good and tight you want to drive it all night. It will handle anything you throw at it and will come back for more. I saw one once at a car show.

[m18436572]

I'll take the bitch, thanks.

[Ciexyz]

Calling Mr. Right Now!!! (Uh, not really.)

[The Brush]

Uhmmm. That isn't being a gentleman. That's fear of intimacy.

I still say I need a first base "coach".

[Tymesup]

I wonder if they asked Kobe for a comment.

[L,TOWM]

Riiiiiiggggghhhhhhttt....

;-)

[Melas]

2 or 3 girls, 10 dates each, and no kiss? You're not dating, you have pals who happen to have breasts.

[stevio]

LOL.

[GraniteStateConservative]

Sounds like a better group to join than the Illuminati.

Those meetings must be wild.

[Hildy]

This was SO written by a woman. She still sees this through the eyes of having a "relationship." Young somen have been taught that sex is the only way to get a man. The sluttier, the better.

[Paulus Invictus]

And evil is winning now, thanks to Hollyweird, un-controlled TV soft porn fare, Playboy and other porno media. Say goodbye to morality, maybe forever or until Soddom and Gomorrah are destroyed. Immorality and RATS go together.

[bc2]

We are, obviously, gentlemen, and have been trained by our fathers (despite the best attempts of current society) to respect women, and to take a more "old fashioned" approach to dating.

Fpimentel is right, from my experience (limited). It has always worked well to "ask" for a kiss goodnight ("may I give you a kiss goodnight?"). While it of course sounds corny to us guys the girls are flattered.

If you wait too long and don't make any "moves", the girl will either lose interest or think you are sending signals that you are not interested in her. Personally I wait for a few dates before going for the kiss. If after a few dates, I am feeling that I like the girl, and want to continue the relationship in that direction, asking for a goodnight kiss is a good method, IMHO.



What say the rest of you?

[PBRSTREETGANG]

...we've been out 10 times and I haven't gone for a kiss goodnight yet.

Bad move. By that point you're relegating yourself to the "friend zone" and are no longer being viewed as a potential romance.

[The Brush]

We are, obviously, gentlemen, and have been trained by our fathers (despite the best attempts of current society) to respect women, and to take a more "old fashioned" approach to dating.

I hear stories of men who have gone for "the brass ring" on the first date and I don't get it. The annoying thing is that it often works. I don't want a woman who gives in that easily nor do I want to be someone whth that approach.
When I find the woman that makes my heart flutter I'll know it and act on my feelings in time. For now I'm enjoying the company of many different women and taking notes.

[MEGoody]

Sounds like a good plan to me.