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I'm going to go so far out on a limb that I'm carrying a parachute and proclaim that from what I have seen in my life:

A majority of super successful men (and almost as many women) have a difficult time maintaining fidelity or simply sticking to a long term marriage.

Very competitive men often pursue women with the same zeal or they simply become bored with the status quo or "outgrow" their partner in accomplishments or experience.

I view the latter as the fault of the man. Even a very accomplished man who has a wife who has restricted her own endeavors to support him is bound by honour and respect and responsibility to remain loyal to his woman and his family and not to allow himself to grow distant due to the nature of his success.

The cheating stuff needs no explanation.

A fairly wealthy fellow who was a rake himself once told me that my dad and a car dealer he knew in Vicksburg were the only "successful" men he knew who did not chase women. I thought he was nuts at the time, I was young and idealistic. Now, I know, it's fairly true.

As for the culpability of his wife....I don't know.

It is a damn shame with all their money and comfort that they could not work something out for their 3 children. Once you have children, it's not about you anymore and financial problems are a leading cause of divorce and they obviously don't have that.

Children never ever get over it and it gets passed on.

A majority of super successful men (and almost as many women) have a difficult time maintaining fidelity or simply sticking to a long term marriage.

True -- but that's what makes them "attractive" in the first place. They are the high status male, sought after by all. It is very competitive.

Had he been less high status, he would have less opportunities to "cheat", but he'd also be less attractive in the mental calculus of women.

Women are naturally drawn to the men who are most difficult to hold on to.

Children never ever get over it and it gets passed on.

Exactly. And that's what happened to Lance as a 2 year old child too.

The "DNA donor", as he calls his biological father, did the same thing to Lance and his mom as Lance is doing to his own children. A hard cycle to break (no pun intended actually...).

Once you have a spouse your life stops being about you. That is what so many people get wrong. Marriage is an unconditional committment to an imperfect person. I knew going into it that my wife was going to disappoint me and be ugly, mean, and hurtful. I told her to expect that from me. Why? Because I'm human.

One thing I also told her to expect is that I would snap out of it. I would eventually take my eyes off myself and say the three most difficult things in the human language; I was wrong. I'm sorry. Will you forgive me?

I'm praying for him. God has his heart. Lance just hasn't admitted it yet.