Posted on 10/04/2003 10:57:31 AM PDT by demlosers
WOMEN are duty-bound to provide their husbands with sex on demand, claims a controversial book on achieving wedded bliss.
Wives have a "loving obligation" to have sex whenever they are asked for it - even if they are not in the mood, says American author Dr Laura Schlessinger.
The 56-year-old sex therapist and radio host says marriages will survive and improve if men are viewed as a "gift from God".
And she urges women to stop nagging and whining, saying: "Be honest girls, that's what we do".
Her book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, will not be published until January, but it has already been labelled "outrageous" by feminists, marriage experts and psychologists.
Dr Schlessinger, who has a PhD in psychology, has written 60 books on marriage and attracts 100 million listeners every week to her radio show.
Her moralistic views have often clashed head-on with those who view marriage as an equal partnership.
In her latest book, she writes: "If husbands are expected to go to work and earn money and visit relatives they don't like, why can't wives put out on demand?"
Marriage counsellor Jennie Bergat condemned Dr Schlessinger's remarks.
"It is outrageous. Women have a right to be tired and if a woman is not in the mood, a man should respect that," Ms Bergat said.
"When you sign a marriage certificate you don't surrender privacy and rights. She is declaring that women are chattels to be used at the man's whim."
The Australian
Interesting point.
Wives have a "loving obligation" to have sex whenever they are asked for it - even if they are not in the mood, says American author Dr Laura Schlessinger.Yeah. Yeah. Standard Jewish Orthodox teaching on sex. I read a book by a rabbi entitled Kosher Sex. This is one of the points he made. But Jewish Orthodox get about two weeks a month off from getting groped or fondled or even touched at all--their days of separation. So by the time they ritually purify themselves in that giant tub of Godly goodness (called a mitsvot or something), and become available for sex again, both partners want it so badly that moods are simply not an issue.
Let's see:
"a husband is expected to work" - and this is saying that a wife's day isn't spent working. Many women work outside the home, many women work, i.e. take care of children and the home, many women work from their home, take care of the kid and homeschool too (I am in the latter group).
"visit relatives they don't like" - so the husband doesn't like the wife's relatives, but the wife always likes the husband's relatives? In my case the mother-in-law lives with us and I am the primary caregiver, since the husband is off at work (lucky him).
"wives put out on demand"-if you mean "provide a body" for the husband to have sex with, we'll then I have no issues. But if you mean that the wife shows up mentally, physically, and emotionally for an intimate encounter with her husband, then it's not going to happen on demand.
Luckily my husband prefers that all of me (mind, body, and emotions) shows up for sex, and therefore doesn't demand.
With kids, jobs, in-laws, etc. intimacy takes planning, but we have a long standing marriage and a genuine "like" of each other, as well as love with each other.
It's just a violation of fundamental rules. Lace is fine, just about in any format.
Silk is OK. Can't complain to much about silk.
I've rarely had objection to much of anything miniscule or, perhaps, the maximum in air conditioning.
The wife once had the nerve to show up in flannel long-johns. That's all together different. So I thought it crucial to put my foot down, so-to-speak. That was when rule number one had to be established. So far, it hasn't been violated in any of these live long years.
That might be fair as long as the wife is not working to also support the family,is the primary care provider for the children, and also does all the cooking and cleaning to boot. Oh, and may I add not having to spend time with his crappy relatives also.
And you sound like a very fine woman as well.
TYPO. You meant "...once or twice a year...", right? :)
YIKES!!!!
FemNazis, socialists and quacks.
I'm sure she appreciates being able to hear her little boys pre-pubescent voice again. ;-)
*cough*
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