[sinkspur]

I just don't like this feeling that this is all on a "need to know" basis, and someone thinks we don't need to know.

It's not on a "need to know" basis, and the deacon and priest were completely off base if they left you with that impression.

None of the procedures and processes are secret, and somebody should have told you up front that this was an 18-24 month time frame (for Stickman; your "annulment" can be done in a day.)

If you'd like to learn more about the Faith, why not ask if you can just attend the RCIA anyway? You'll have to go through it again, but at least you'll know more, and can ask more penetrating questions and add some insight for others in the sessions.

I know this is frustrating, but, not many who are in your shoes have the benefit of sharing your frustration with others in a forum like this.

Grace comes into our lives in all kinds of ways. This is one of them.

[TheStickman]

I assure you, had the Deacon let us know it was an 18 to 24 month process we'd be informed and have a real sense of what was going on with all of this. Learning you have to wait for something isn't nearly as bad as not being told why you have to wait.

[visualops]

FR is a Godsend in more ways than one, and we very much appreciate all the help and prayers from everyone here.

Regarding "need to know", I realize it's my perception, just trying to get across how I feel.

I'm surprized regarding your comment on Stickman's annulment, the Deacon gave us the opposite impression, that mine might be simple and his complex. They said they have to contact the ex-spouses...despite that we both have issues with contact of that nature with them, and neither are Catholic, and my ex has remarried.

The thing is, we *do* want to attend the RCIA this September, even if we can't get Confirmed and complete the whole thing at the end. The priest is the one supposedly saying we *shouldn't*, that we can take some "adult classes" if we want. I'm not sure why we would have to take it again though.

My thought is we need all of us (Us and Deacon & priest)get together and get it all straightened out.