Posted on 08/19/2007 2:13:50 PM PDT by NYer
Lesson 32 of 43.
Lesson 32 of 43.
Having been married for 4.5 years and subsequently divorced (both my parents and my ex-in laws were married for 30+ and still together), I’m convinced that it’s selfishness that causes most marriages to go south. Avoid it, and things work out well.
Sage advice from a very wise person! The priest who married my parents recommended they selflessly place their spouse first when making decisions.
Of course, all of the points that were mentioned also helped. Weve just celebrated our 49th year and are more in love than the day we were married.
Congratulations!!! My parents just celebrated their Golden Wedding Anniversary with renewal of their marriage vows at Mass. It was a simple ceremony that included the exchange of new rings and a blessing from the officiating priest. Naturally, the entire congregation joined in with a round of applause. It is so rare today to see couples reach this anniversary. I would encourage you to contact your parish priest and arrange for a papal blessing. He will go through the diocese to submit your request to the Vatican. You will receive a beautiful certificate from the Holy Father. Start now because it takes time.
Thank you for the beautiful post! May it encourage others who drop by to love and respect their husband or wife, like they do their dog ;-)
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 6: Angels and Devils
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 7: Human Beings and the Purpose of Life
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 8: Sanctifying Grace
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 9: Heaven
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 10: Mortal and Venial Sin
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 11: Hell
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 12: Purgatory
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 13: Original Sin
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 14: Jesus Christ, Our Savior
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 15: Jesus Christ, True God and True Man
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 16: The Catholic Church is the Only True Church
A Brieft Catechism for Adults - Lesson 17: Qualities of the Catholic Church
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 18: The Pope, the Vicar of Christ
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 19: The Seven Sacraments
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 20: The Sacrament of Baptism
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 21: The Sacrament of Confirmation
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 22: The Sacrament of the Holy Eucharist (Holy Communion)
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 23: The Sacrifice of the Mass
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 24: The Sacrament of Penance (Confession)
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 25: How to go to Confession
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 26: Indulgences
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 27: The Sacrament of Extreme Unction
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 28: The Sacrament of Holy Orders (Priesthood)
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 29: The Nature of Marriage
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 30: The Sins Against Marriage
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 31: The Sacrament of Matrimony
A Brief Catechism for Adults - Lesson 32: How to have a Happy Marriage
Be interesting.
Have a sense of humor.
Be physical.
Avoid the sin of thinking the worst about any of your spouse’s unknowns.
Don’t poison the well with accusations or demands.
Say something kind and thoughtful *every* day.
Remember that anytime you tell yourself that He/She “just outta know” something, they don’t. That’s how your brain rationalizes *you* being a bad communicator.
Given Salvation's response, I am guessing she read "45" instead of "4.5" ;-)
Im convinced that its selfishness that causes most marriages to go south
I'm with you, Old_Mil! My marriage lasted 14 years but fell apart when my husband, who set stringent requirements for adopting a child (white, half Italian/half American and free), changed his mind when that child was entrusted to us with her birth grandmother's tears streaming down her face. He set those conditions never expecting it would happen. God, in His great mercy, heeded my prayer. I have raised her alone.
Sorry. I thought that said 45. Sorry about your divorce.
Amen! It doesn't take much to do that. No doubt, you are a kind and wonderful spouse. Thank you for the post!
You have FReepmail.
For a moment there I thought Salvation was engaging in sarcasm!
Actually, a woman can learn a lot about a man by owning a dog. Did you ever find that tickle spot on the rib cage that makes a guys leg go thump thump thump?
I have read the entire Catechism of the Catholic Church and there is nothing in it which says that it is a mortal sin to refuse to have intercourse with one’s spouse or that one may refuse intercourse only for a serious reason. That is not to say that spouses do not have a right to intercourse because they do, but I think this priest’s opinion is extreme.
He's an 'orthodox' priest ;-)
1 Corinthians 7
3Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
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