Posted on 07/16/2009 9:29:26 PM PDT by ROTB
My Jewish sister ...
1) got married 2) divorced her husband after 4 years 3) is scheduled to get married shortly
Questions:
1) Should I go? Do I approved of her trashing the marriage institution if I go? 2) Would Jesus go? 3) Does it send a stronger message to her, my family, and those who note my absence than if I were to go?
afterall, people can change....
I have a dear sil who had three children out of wedlock bing bam presto when she was very young....she married my brother and its been nearly 30 yrs of wedding bliss..not only did she make my brother a better man, but she became a better mom herself.....
also, my dtr just got married to a wonderful man who's mother was a "devout" Jehovah Witness....he has been basically thrown out of his mom's life since he doesn't follow the JW religion....
imagine that....practically disinheriting your own fresh and blood over them not following a certain relgion....
my adult children...don't even know if they believe in God....I have homosexuals in my extended family...Worse of all, I have BAMA voters in my extended family....
thing is, we can't throw everybody under the bus...
we're on this train, we can't control it, and God's the engineer....our job is to hang on and follow the engineer.....
I told my mother in no uncertain terms that I would not attend any wedding she might have to someone other than my father. They have been divorced 15 years.
She has stayed single. Please note my dad was the biggest jerk.
I am a Christian and I believe marriage is until death only.
Myself as well. It takes awhile to understand Faith, Religion, Practice and Sin. Family is top order. We shouldn't judge yet always do. Honor your sister and let God do the judgement aspect.
I don’t know. She could be in any of them.
No, he wouldn’t.
A vow to God is until death. Christ wouldn’t celebrate the sin of adultery.
That is what I meant by “in and of itself” -—
Just like killing someone might NOT be a sin, it depends on the circumstances.
Christ celebrates a solemn vow between a man and woman. If one breaks that vow is the other condemned to a lifetime of pain because of it?
True, cheese and crackers can be quite elegant and tasty with the right people and atmosphere. The family and friends are what’s really important.
And I’ve even been known to drink box wine, but don’t tell anyone.
I’d rather them get marry than have sex without marriage.
I think you should just support your sister and help her make this marriage a keeper.
Have you never made a mistake? If you’ve been infallible all these years then I submit you are about to make a serious mistake by not going. It’s her day, not yours.
My niece just got divorced. A few months after she got married, she found another woman walking out of her home. The woman said that she had been sleeping with my niece’s husband since before my niece got married (so while my niece was engaged).
My niece is in her early 20’s. I’m glad she got divorced, and I think she should be able to remarry. She’s not the one that broke the wedding vow. He did.
(I’m a very conservative Christian.)
Otherwise how are you going to stone her to death?
I talked to your sister, and she said if she knew you were such a jerk, she wouldn’t have invited you in the first place.
My older brother married a non-Catholic in 1958 in a Methodist Church. My mother’s entire family boycotted the wedding. ( My father’s family is Protestant.) My mother, my brother, my younger brother, and I were shunned by her Catholic family because we attended the wedding, and they insisted that my brother was living in sin because his wedding was not valid in the eyes of their Catholic God.
It took about 5 years but the rift in the family mostly healed ( with permanent scars, though). At least everyone agreed not to talk about it.
Unless your sister is criminally abusive to you, (and your post doesn’t seem to indicate this), PLEASE GO TO THE WEDDING!
Also...My son married a beautiful woman who had two children by two different men. The oldest child was illegitimate. She join our church and accepted Christ and about 2 years later met my son. They have been happily married for 9 years, and have had 4 more children together ( 6 in total). They are a wonderful happy family that is strong in the gospel.
My husband’s family wasn’t thrilled about my husband marrying me. I was 6 years older than he, and, by that time, we had both left the Catholic Church for another denomination. ( My husband’s family blamed me for that. ) Well...We have been happily married for 27 years! Thankfully, they we wise enough not to boycott our justice of the peace wedding.
Jesus spent most of His time among sinners.
God is much more patient than our interpretive family and friends! May God continue to bless you. :^)
Attendance is not a sign of approval, it is a sign of your love for your sister.
If you disapprove, then you should not be a participant, (brides maid, best man, etc.), but you should attend the service.
Unless it’s a satanic ritual or something.
Canned cheese makes the most delightful swirly patterns on the Ritz crackers!
Go. She’s your sister.
She needs a brother, not a judge.
If you don’t go, you will lose any future opportunity to witness to her for Jesus...
If she is a Christian already, by your refusing to go, it will turn her against Jesus as well as yourself...
Go, and enjoy yourself...You have no idea what God may plan for their future...
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