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Help me find the Truth. (Personal question)
Urroner

Posted on 12/28/2009 11:26:45 AM PST by urroner

For the sake of a discussion, let's assume that I am a brand new neighbor of yours. We have only met each other in passing. You play the part of the Christian and I will play the part of the agnostic. (BTW, none of the below is true about me. Upfront, I am Mormon, but I have tried to get into this discussion on this forum for some time, but haven't been able to do so.)

(I also realize that there are some of you who are more than eager to post anti-Mormon material on this thread and I request that you don't do so. I don't even want Mormonism mentioned in this thread beyond this point.)

Let's assume that I'm out trimming the hedges between your house and mine and that you are working in a garden close to the hedges.

My wife and three kids, ages 3, 8, and 13, are all out with me. My wife keeps telling me I need to paint the house before it gets colder, my younger children are throwing little rocks at me to get my attention and laughing and giggling, and the oldest is pestering me about buying her a cellphone and about the promise I made a year ago about letting her pierce her ears for earrings.

In a calm moment, my wife and I get into a neighborly chat, well would be my wife, I'm a science/math teacher at the local community college and it's very hard for me to just sit down and chitchat and you tell us you are Christian.

My wife tells you she is a Christian also, but doesn't go to any denomination and hasn't been to church in several years, since marrying me, but that I am always peppering her with questions that she doesn't know the answers to. She says that one of the reasons she has stopped going to church is because she likes to spend Sundays with me since we don't get a lot of lone time together. I spend a lot of time helping students at the college and when I'm home, I have to spend a lot of time with the kids. We do have a date night every week, but that's just not enough.

She also says that she is also tired of seeing so much hypocrisy among the church members and the preacher is always asking for money, that she had decided to stop going. She says that her preacher, when she was little, told her she was saved as did her parents, so her salvation was guaranteed.

You see me roll my eyes when my wife says that.

I tell you that I really don't go to any denomination, but I have read the Bible, the Koran, the Tao Te Ching, the Gleanings from the Writings of Baha'u'llah, some of the writings of Marx, and some New Age books. I tell you that I don't know what the right way is or even if there is a right way?

I tell you that I tend toward Uniterianism, but Buddhism has some attraction to me also, but it's a little too esoteric for me. I tell you that I also have some problems with life after death, reincarnation, or any supernatural miracles.

I tell you my parents were Catholics before they died, but they died when I was very young and I have been to church only a couple of times since their funeral, but the people who adopted me were strong agnostics and never directed me to follow any particular path. I'm thinking about going back to the RCC, but haven't made any decision yet.

You realize that I am fairly knowledgeable of the Bible when it comes to knowing where what is, but you realize that I don't interpret them at all as you do. In fact, I have a very shallow understanding of them. I think the Bible is good literature and can help a person do a lot of good in this life, but I don't know anything about being saved and what that means.

I ask you what you believe and how I can find the happiness and joy you have in your life.

What are you going to say or do?


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To: IrishCatholic

IrishCatholic said:
In the end, you and your family’s future welfare are in your hands, not mine. I would try and steer you on the right path, and be sad if you decided against it.

I ask:
What do you mean by future welfare? I understand if you mean future physical/social/emotion welfare, but do you mean spiritual welfare?

My wife, in the story, has told me that a person’s spiritual welfare/salvation in wholly dependent upon Christ and nothing I can do.


21 posted on 12/28/2009 11:41:23 AM PST by urroner
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To: urroner

John 8:32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

If you are really looking for the truth you will find it!!


22 posted on 12/28/2009 11:42:27 AM PST by handy old one (If you play in nature be prepared to be played with by nature!)
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To: SmartInsight
Talk about your and your neighbor’s garden, kids, dogs, weather, anything except politics and religion.

That is, of course, unless you agree with each other in both respects.

Otherwise, DITTO!

23 posted on 12/28/2009 11:43:21 AM PST by sonofagun (Some think my cynicism grows with age. I like to think of it as wisdom!)
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To: Bob J

Bob J asked:
Maybe you could explain why you beleve your neighbor is happy and joyful in the first place based a couple chance passings?

I say:
All the times that I have seen my neighbor, my neighbor was happy, especially during this conversation. All I know is that I’m not as happy as I think I could be. This is why I have read all those books.


24 posted on 12/28/2009 11:43:49 AM PST by urroner
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To: urroner
(I also realize that there are some of you who are more than eager to post anti-Mormon material on this thread and I request that you don't do so. I don't even want Mormonism mentioned in this thread beyond this point.)

You realize, of course, that Mormonism will be the central point of most replies.

As you no doubt intended.

25 posted on 12/28/2009 11:44:05 AM PST by Responsibility2nd (During this joyous Christmas season, I'd like you to know....A reindeer bit my sister once.)
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To: theDentist
First of all, this is a pretty contrived set of facts so my question would be to ask what you really want to know...I would first of all try to witness by my life. I would explain that the joy and peace that I have is from the knowledge that I am saved and my sins are set a part from me not by my deserving, but by the grace of God through the innocent suffering and death of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

All the other questions I would answer if you wanted. For example, the notion that salvation is assured is true, but we also know that we grow as Christians when we come together as a community.

As for the hypocritical nature of the church, it is important to delineate between the Chruch (body of Christ) and church (man made institution). Seeing all have sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God (Romans 3:23), it would be impossible to have a perfect church. But this does not mean that in grace we strive to serve God and foresake earthy desires.

Being a classically trained and life long Lutheran, I would point to the truth that "It is by grace that your are saved through faith, and not the work of your hand.:

If you wanted to delve deeper, I would cite the Pauline scripture that summs up the human condition: That which I wish I did, I do not, and that wish I wish i did not, I do...for the spirit is willing but the flesh is week.

Finally, I would point out the most central truth of my faith: John 1 -- In the beginning was the Word and the Word was God, and the Word was with God, and the Spirit hovered upon the waters...And the Words was made flesh, and came to dwell among us full of grace and truth. John 3:16 God so loved the world that he gave His only Son that whosever believes in HIm shall not perish but have life eternal...and then I would invite you to attend church with me...

26 posted on 12/28/2009 11:44:33 AM PST by gas_dr (Trial lawyers are Endangering Every Patient in America)
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To: urroner
Ok ok. Probably ask if the kids want to come over and Wii with the grandkids because they got new games for Christmas. Next let you know we are having an open house on New Years Day and invite you to that. Then do you want to borrow the hedge clippers because yours look long in the tooth. Mention that it's interesting you teach math and science as my husband is a scientist. Wonder if the wife has a good chili receiporgor the open house as we are sort of going the Mexican food route.
27 posted on 12/28/2009 11:44:52 AM PST by svcw (The time is near at hand which must determine whether Americans are to be free men or slaves. GW)
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To: urroner
What are you going to say or do?

Call a real estate agent and put my house up on the market.

28 posted on 12/28/2009 11:44:56 AM PST by hole_n_one
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To: urroner

"You can't handle the truth!!"

29 posted on 12/28/2009 11:47:01 AM PST by earlJam
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To: urroner

i would say......”don’t taze me bro’........... hahahaha no, just kidding.
I probably wouldn’t have much to say to you about your religious habits. I would assume you are a confused individual on religion. You should think of your kids first and set the example because you are the parent and just pick a church & go ... teach your children.


30 posted on 12/28/2009 11:51:20 AM PST by MissDairyGoodnessVT (HAPPY CHRISTMAS EVERYBODY!! =^..^=)
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To: Engineer_Soldier

Just because a book is old or complex doesn’t make it true. Where is the data that points physical evidence of anything before the time of David or even during the time of David. Where is the physical evidence of the Exodus?

From a logical mind approach, where is any extra-biblical evidence that Christ lived, of any of the miracles he performed, or of the resurrection?

Is there any physical evidence in Egypt that Moses ever existed?

If somebody tells me that I need to accept X because part of X has evidence, physical or literary, then that is only telling me to accept that part of has evidence, but the rest of X. There is complexity and physical evidence of the the Iliad and Greek mythology, but I have a problem accepting any of that as gospel.

NOTE: I believe that Moses and David existed, but in this story, I don’t.


31 posted on 12/28/2009 11:53:08 AM PST by urroner
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To: urroner

Are you ready to hear the answer? Are you so full of pride that you think you hold your destiny in your own hands? Or do you recognize how fallible and sinful you are?

Mat 16:25 For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it.

Are you willing to lose your life?


32 posted on 12/28/2009 11:56:43 AM PST by colorcountry (A faith without truth is not true faith.)
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To: elpinta

elpinta ask:
Look up the account of Creation in Genesis

I say:
I have read the account of the creation in Genesis, but as an agnostic, I only see it as a myth. As an agnostic, I believe in evolution.


33 posted on 12/28/2009 11:57:33 AM PST by urroner
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To: SmartInsight

Trust me, I know which neighbors I can can or can’t talk religion or politics with. Thankfully, I live in a fairly conservative neighborhood who don’t think too much of ObaMao.


34 posted on 12/28/2009 11:59:23 AM PST by urroner
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To: urroner
I have been in similar situations before. I normally first ask if you are truly wanting answers or if you are just engaging in conversation. Because if you are not going to listen there is no sense in me wasting my breath and your time. This normally sets up the position that I posses knowledge that you do not have and most often, you will respond with an honest attempt to engage me. This will be an attempt by you to extract knowledge from me. It positions me as the teacher and you as the student.

If you proceed, I will use a series of questions to guide you to the conclusions.

Do you believe that there is a God?
If so, what kind of God - good or evil, wise or foolish, active or passive in the affairs of men?
If God is such a great being, what does he want from men?
How does man's free will play into the relationship between God and man?
If God is perfect, can God tolerate sin? If man has a sinful nature or can freely choose sin, then how does God bring man into fellowship?
Can mankind obtain perfection of their own effort? Aren't there things that man should do but does not and through their ignorance does not even know that they should be doing them. How can man ever obtain a perfect state and thus approach God without sin?
Isn't there a price or justice that has to be made to atone for sin. We see this in our laws. If I steal from my fellow man don't I have the obligation to make restitution?
What does God expect from man to make atonement for sin? How can man make an atonement for a sin of omission i.e. does not even know that he needs to make atonement because he does not even know he has sinned?
If God is a God of love and desires fellowship with mankind, would God leave man to flounder about on his own in spiritual darkens, or would God provide guidance, counsel and leadership to mankind?

These are all questions used to frame a conversation with a professed agnostic. Answers to these questions can be steered into an number of religions or away from religions. If I use my knowledge of my faith to answer these questions or guide you to answer these questions, then you will come to a position where you accept that:

There is a God.
God is loving and seeks to have fellowship with man
Man has free will to choose or reject God
God is perfect and can not or will not taint himself with sin.
Man's free will means that he has a sinful nature
Man can not ever obtain perfection on his own
God's perfection requires that atonement be made for sin
God has made a way for man to receive the atonement for sin
God would not leave man to his own understanding and fate
God has provided messages through scripture to tell man of the path of atonement.

35 posted on 12/28/2009 12:01:15 PM PST by taxcontrol
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To: urroner

Now tell me what parts DO NOT relflect you personally, because hypotheticals are ALWAYS designed by their maker to yield specific results by virtue of conditions that are plausible, but not in fact, truthful and/or real.


36 posted on 12/28/2009 12:01:17 PM PST by papertyger (Representation without taxation is tyranny!)
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To: urroner
I don't have time to go into all of the historical evidence and I urge you to test all of the religions as I'm sure that - if you do without stopping short and without bias - you will find protestant Christianity as the truth. It's like a complex algebraic equation. It only has one solution when all is said and done, but it takes a lot of work to find a solution. I was atheist and put the religions, especially Christianity, through the gauntlet. In the end, Christianity proved true, and that truth set me free.

Shake off all the fears of servile prejudices, under which weak minds are servilely crouched. Fix reason firmly in her seat, and call on her tribunal for every fact, every opinion. Question with boldness even the existence of a God; because, if there be one, he must more approve of the homage of reason than that of blindfolded fear.

Thomas Jefferson

37 posted on 12/28/2009 12:02:18 PM PST by Engineer_Soldier (Any society that would give up a little liberty to gain a little security deserve neither!)
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To: handy old one

Handy old one:
If you are really looking for the truth you will find it!!

Me:
(In the story)I believe I have been looking for it for years. Will I find it on my own? How can a Christian help me? My wife has tried for years, but she is not able to answer some very sincere questions that I have.

I don’t demand total consistency in a religion and that it makes total logical sense, nothing can, but I would like to see some logic and consistency behind most of it’s major beliefs and creeds.


38 posted on 12/28/2009 12:03:17 PM PST by urroner
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To: urroner
This is all you really need to know:

Matthew: Chapter 6

1 "(But) take care not to perform righteous deeds in order that people may see them; otherwise, you will have no recompense from your heavenly Father.

2 When you give alms, do not blow a trumpet before you, as the hypocrites 2 do in the synagogues and in the streets to win the praise of others. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward.

3 But when you give alms, do not let your left hand know what your right is doing,
4 so that your almsgiving may be secret. And your Father who sees in secret will repay you.

5 "When you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, who love to stand and pray in the synagogues and on street corners so that others may see them. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward.

6 But when you pray, go to your inner room, close the door, and pray to your Father in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will repay you.

7 In praying, do not babble like the pagans, who think that they will be heard because of their many words.

8 Do not be like them. Your Father knows what you need before you ask him.

39 posted on 12/28/2009 12:03:47 PM PST by spectre (Spectre's wife)
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To: urroner
I understand where you’re coming from. Sometimes life is about taking the blue pill or the red pill. With the blue pill you might find bliss but it is based on a blissful ignorance.

Something inside us just won’t allow us to take the blue pill even though we know it may give us veneer of happiness. We know deep down it is an exitence based on fraud and we can’t lie to ourselves without losing some of our humanity.

I think some people think of happiness as a destination when in fact it is a journey. Find out what it is that really makes you happy, no matter how unsettling, and decide to put yourself on that road. Happiness may be hundreds of little steps instead of one giant leap.

But keep one thing in mind, you have a right to be happy and as long as that pursuit doesn’t involve purposely and maliciously making those around you who you care about unhappy, you need to go that route or you might end up on your deathbed despising yourself and wondering “what could have been”.

And that would be the greatest waste of a life, afterall.

40 posted on 12/28/2009 12:05:33 PM PST by Bob J
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