>>i.e. it winds up paying for broken homes & polygamous homes...in the form of welfare, free lunch programs at schools, free breakfast programs at schools, and in a myriad of other ways...then it has a right to standardize<<
That is a really dangerous argument to make. Most of those examples, or similar type of examples, are used for controlling lifestyle because of health costs, or affect on other citizens. It’s typical of the liberal line to control more and more.
If you are truly conservative you may want to rethink using that one.
The government only gets its money through taxes. If you want government subsidies, you should be prepared to take government restrictions.
If you don’t want government interference, don’t take the hand outs.