Just wow.
My guess is that the vast majority of couples live together prior to marriage.
I lived with my wife before I married her, and even I know I was wrong for doing it...but on the other hand, if I hadn’t, she wouldn’t have become a Christian.
Hard to figure out which way the see-saw drops on that one.
I would expect this, maybe, from a college age jerkoff, but a Christian archbishop? Stick a fork in the UK, it's done.
Kate’s a milk cow now?
(face palm)
Awful metaphor, but so very accurate of how people are today...
And in Texas, the adage is, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?”
More common, IMHO, and couples who live together before marriage are more likely to divorce. But hey, best to ‘em...
Colonel, USAFR
“Test the milk before they buy the cow.”
Terrible metaphor. Kate is a milk cow that needs to be tested (have sex with) before marriage?
I’d rather my kids live with their future spouse too instead of them now moving in once married and finding out that they have made a huge mistake like he’s a slob, she’s a layabout etc
Well the one thing I can attest to personally is the fact that women nowadays seem to develop what I can only describe as an extreme cavalier attitude shortly after marriage. And then shortly after that, begin to take more than they give regarding all aspects of a marriage.
I’ve always believed each party should give 60% and only take 40% this way you never meet in the middle.
But I’m now twice divorced and have been living with a nice woman for many years that I met after my last divorce. And were both very happy and each day it seems is a new and exciting adventure.
My wife and I shacked up for a couple years before marrying. I did it because I am a cheap skate and keeping one apartment saved us tons of money. I doubt these two had the same situation.
"Journey" is one of those words that catches my ear when it is used by religious leaders. There is some truth to the fact that all Christians are (or are supposed to be) on a journey towards greater holiness, but I get the feeling that the term is in lieu of discerning right from wrong.
As for the cow metaphor, what the Archbishop is saying is that men should take women on "test drives" to see if they like having sex with them enough to get married to them -- a kind of test period during which women can be expected to perform to men's expectations in order to be rewarded with the love and security women crave.
It's rather disgusting when you think about the reality of the situation.
It just occurred to me, gee, if an 18 year old boy was to move in and bed his young girlfriend, prior to marriage...do you really think he is thinking...’I just want to see if we’re c-o-m-p-a-t-i-b-l-e’?
heheh, I thinketh not.
Why even open a Bible these days?
“It is better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt”?
Wonder what the Archbishop has to say about Charlie? That was all ok too I suppose? If lots of people think it’s ok then it must be ok, right?
Several years ago I was dating a woman with a young daughter. We decided not to have sex before marriage for her sake. We did decide after three years that we were not compatible, so we ended our relationship. Years later the daughter contacted me and thanked me for being a good role model. She decided to wait until after marriage to have sex and is now married to a wonderful man who respects her. I know...this is only ONE example.
Some women seem to do it trying to get a hold on the guy hoping he won't stray to someone else.
I wish somebody could explain why young people don't appear to have any sense of guilt. Is it a generational thing and not spiritual?
In my experience, if I didn't put out, and sometimes I did which to this day makes me feel ashamed, they quickly found someone else that would. Some very few seem to care and respect the woman so much that they will stick by her and go without until marriage.
I have pondered the issue of sexual compatibility now that I've learned a few more things. How do you know if you don't do it? I asked a priest about it, and he said God takes care of it. I wonder.